(Anonymous Bee) Sensitive Situation

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1243 posts
Bumble bee

What does she say she wants from you?

Post # 4
6273 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

Ok….so this friend you had in high school’s mom is calling you? WTF? Why don’t you just call the cops? That’s not normal behavior. Why is she wanting to be BFFs all of a sudden?

This is just so weird. What does your FI think about your friend’s mom’s behavior? And why did your high school friend tell her mom if she knew her mom was cukoo for Cocoa Puffs in the first place?

Post # 5
626 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

and what does she say to you? what are the convos about?

Post # 6
5909 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@StressBall:  You need to call the police and adult protective services and file reports with both agencies…this woman is harrassing you and whether she’s suffering a breakdown or other medical problem, she needs to be taken care of if her daughter won’t deal with the problem.  Make a list of dates and times she’s appeared unannounced, have your phone records copied showing the excessive contact and make sure to let both agencies know you don’t feel safe.


Post # 8
715 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@StressBall:  wait, wuh? Is this your FIANCES mother? Or another friends mother? And what does she want from you specifically – what was the 2 hour meeting about?

Post # 9
462 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

honestly, if you fear violence and the stalking is not letting up, get a restraining order. I know that seems really harsh, but the police will be able to protect you IF something were to happen. I would let your friend know to minimize hard feelings.

I don’t want to push any farther than you are willing to go, but how do you mean mentally ill? Could it be drug or alcohol related? Do you know WHY she is obsessed with you? 

I hope you stay safe, and I hope this works out well for you.

Post # 11
2831 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

call the police, and set up a restraining order.

she’s obviously causing you stress and it’s uncomfortable for you. if you feel like your mental and/or physical safety is at risk, then call the police and report it.

Post # 13
715 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@StressBall:  gotcha. I echo previous sentiments….cop time. Restraining order, pronto. 

Post # 14
2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We have laws to prevent this sort of thing in England. I’m sure you must have similarly so I also recomment calling the police. If this woman has mental health issues they will involve social services and she will receive the help she so clearly needs.

It may sound a rather drastic move but your safety is paramount and if her daughter isn’t prepared to help and the woman herself is unable to take on board the warnings she’s received then you have no choice but to protect yourself by involving the authorities.

Post # 15
11379 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@StressBall:  she keeps coming by your home, your parent’s home and your workplace.  what does she say each time?  what is her purpose of these visits? 

did this just start after your engagement?  why now??

my only advise would be to file a restraining order.

Post # 16
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

This needs to be reported, and until this gets taken care of do not leave work for lunch or anything unless someone is with you. I would say the same when you get home or leave your house. She sounds like she has issues and could be capable of being violent.

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