- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
I’ve been wanting to post about this for a while to get some outside advice.
As soon as I announced my engagement to an old high school friend, she warned me that her mom had been a bit… off lately and not to be surprised if she called or took me to lunch. I didn’t think much of it at the time.
A bit about me, I don’t like confrontation, I’m known to get stressed over non-issues, and I can’t tell people ‘NO!’
Her mom did call… several times. She texted. She even showed up unannounced to my office one day. We went to lunch, and I could tell that she was different from the woman I remembered in high school, but I wasn’t sure exactly what the problem was. Her eyes were bloodshot, and her behaviour was slightly erratic. She was very forceful and I felt uncomfortable the entire time. After two hours, way longer than I should have taken, I was able to weasel away from her and get back to the office.
She continued calling, leaving voicemails, stopping by the office several times a week. I know I should have asked her to leave, but I felt nervous about her reaction. I honestly am worried that she might be violent if she doesn’t get what she wants; I truly believe she’s that mentally ill. She’s demanded my attention, even interrupting a date night. She drops by my house and my parents’ home unannounced.
I called my friend to let her know these things were happening, but she’s just not dealing with it. I don’t know if she’s in denial or if she just feels like it’s not her problem. My mom spoke to the mother about about her behaviour, and she assured my mom it would stop. It hasn’t stopped. She called me today and came by my office again. She told me not to tell my mother because she didn’t want to get in trouble. Of course, I told my mom anyway. At first, my mother didn’t think there was a problem until she saw her for herself. This woman is obsessed with me, and my whole family is worried about what she could potentially do. She’s very unstable.
I don’t know what to do. I’m stressed to the max because she cannot continue to come to my office and my home. My boss has explained that to her already. She’s aware of the situation; so, my job is not at stake or anything because of this. I just can’t get my work done. That’s the least of it all though since I am seriously uncomfortable and afraid when she’s around. Oftentimes, I’m the only one in the office. She trapped me at my desk the other day and told me that I could not leave until I did something that she wanted done. It’s totally inappropriate behaviour.