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This is a little weird behavior for anyone. I can't imagine showing up at my small bachelorette party and seeing 3 girls I didn't even know. It would be one thing if they were girls invited to your wedding (like, maybe your future husband has a friend who's married and she is invited even though you don't really know her well), but to have 3 strangers come? I would ask your MOH or another bridesmaid to say something to her about how this is inappropriate, it should really only be your friends, especially since it is a smaller party.

Ugh, that just sucks. First, tell her that you don't want strangers at your bachelorette party. Simple as that. Second, is another BM planning on sending invitations for the party? If so, don't send them to the random girls. This is something that should be an invitation only event with the girls who are closest to you. Not a free-for-all boy-chasing weekend. Hope you find a resolution soon.

You absolutely have reason to complain - this is YOUR weekend.  I would def. say to the BM that you do not want 3 strangers at your party.  If you don't feel comfortable doing that, I would warn your other BM's - by warn I mean tell them the deal and lay out your specific wants for the weekend.  That way if the troublesome group tries to change your plans, you have back up.  Worst case is they leave your group alone to go off and do their thing.  Since you already see what will prob end up happening, there's no reason for it to ruin your good time.  Sounds like this friendship is on it's way down - that sucks and I'm sorry! 

I agree with the others, and can't believe that she thought it was appropriate to invite three people you don't even know to your intimate bachelorette weekend.  Really rude of her to do that. 

Wow!  She has some nerve!  You need to tell your moh (or whomever is planning your bachelorette) to make it very clear this is an Invitation ONLY event for CLOSE friends of the BRIDE!  You don't want strangers hijacking your event and making it about what they want.  Trust me, I had tons of issues with my bachelorette and know what I know now I would have made things much clearer to those planning my event.

Perhaps you could neutrally avoid inviting these girls by mentioning that only people invited to the wedding are invited to the bachelorette party. i know this isn't always the case, but you could jsut phrase it such that these girls aren't invited to your wedding, so they shouldn't be at your bachelorette party. And even mention that some people who ARE invited to the wedding aren't invted to the bachelorette party bc you wanted to keep it small.

If you don't want to have this conversation with her, enlist your maid of honor or another bridesmaid to help out. My guess is that you will be getting hotel rooms, etc, so your other BM could approach her by talking about the details (say, for 8 girls, we'll need to get two hotel rooms) and maybe that will help open up the conversation about the unwanted guests!

I'm so curious about how this turned out - do you have an update for us?