Post # 1
Just a vent….
So, Valentines day came and went… No proposal. My birthday was yesterday… No proposal… Although he surprised me with a spontaneous trip from DC to NYC by train in the middle of the day to see Wicked last night! ( he’s a sweetie) I was a bit disappointed when the evening ended without a ring. I just knew this was it… Welp, I guess I was wrong again…
To make matters worse, my phone died ( and I had no charger – had no clue where I was going when I left work) and all my friends were looking trying to reach me to see if he had popped the question… When I finally got back to DC this am my phone was on blast with emails and texts and FB posts asking if we got engaged. His own family ( sister and cousin) even emailed me to know if anything had happened?!?!? I was completely deflated when I had to respond no…
He knew something had upset me when I was scowling at the phone and I told him that it was too many b-day comments, but I didnt want to elaborate so he didnt feel bad about it. He put so much effort into this trip for me that I didnt want to ruin it.
Although, I have no clue when he plans on doing it or whether he has a ring… We’ve talked about marriage and he says I am the one he wants to be with… He says he will do it when he’s ready… Well “ready” needs to hurry the heck on!
I probably need a nap… Going off of 3 hours of sleep.
How do you stop the disappointment when it doesn’t happen?
I should be excited right now because he planned a really really sweet birthday trip that was hella expensive… but because I was expecting a ring and didnt get one and was kinda ashamed to tell friends not yet, I am bummed out??
Post # 3
Don’t feel bad. Just try to think of the positive and not so much on the negative (i know it’s hard). Just see what you have and not what you don’t.
He will propably want to surprise you and not do it when everyone expects him too. Plus would you really want it on your birthday ? Think, you just had a beautiful celebration… when he proposes, it’s going to be another wonderful moment, you don’t want the two to be linked together, do you ?
I wouldn’t. Just enjoy your relationship and every moment, i know it’s easier said then done but believe me I’ve been there and nothing good comes out of concentrating on the negative. Maybe if you need to, talk to your SO about the timeline and tell yourself that he will do it at the end of that timeline, this way you will be surprised when it happens sooner 🙂
Post # 4
It will happen maybe he doesnt want to do it when he thinks you will think it will happen.. watch you will get it on like a random sunday morning when you dont expect it lol … Relax the min you get engaged .. the wedding will be here everything goes so fast noone enjoys life anymore. you blink its another day.
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2015 - Motor Yacht Destiny
@jna300: First of all, happy belated Birthday!!!!! Second, don’t be sad, I know it’s hard and you feel bad for being sad because he tried so hard to make everything great, but just remember, that when it does happen, you’ll be so happy that everything before will be a distant memory and will feel totally worth it! I’m in the same boat as you, and know that words of encouragement are just that, words, but try to cheer up and remember that SO loves you and wants to be with you, and is probably planning some great proposal that will sweep you off your feet! I’m rooting for you!