Post # 1
So, I love my dress, but my FI has stated several times that he does not like lace. I didn’t know this until after I bought my dress and a day or two after I bought it he sent me a picture of one and said “as long as it doesn’t look like this!” It looked almost identical to my dress……I don’t know what to do, I went into Davids Bridal wanting a mermaid, but I didn’t think FI liked them. We have looked at dresses online together and he shot down all the mermaids I liked. I think the only option I have is to make my dress a mermaid but I don’t know if it can be done. Fi also cheated and hacked my email to fjnd pics of my dress….it’s clear he doesn’t like it. I’m scared he won’t like it….suggestions…ideas??
Post # 3
I think your dress is beautiful and you look really lovely in it. I’m a little concerned about your FI’s reaction. I would think he would be happy in anything that makes you feel happy and beautiful?
Post # 4
You look amazing. I loved that dress but don’t have the figure to pull it off. My FI told me he liked simple a lines the best after we looked at pics. I ended up with a huge tulle sparkly ball gown. He asked after I went shopping “you didn’t get a giant ball gown did you?”
If you love the dress rock it, but I would be pissed as hell if my FI hacked my email to find pictures, that’s an invasion of privacy and totally takes away the wedding excitement. doesn’t davids have an exchange policy? Go back and get your mermaid.
Post # 5
I think a lot of men say they “don’t like lace” because the word lace conjures up images of grandma’s doilies or those huge, puffy wedding dresses of the 1980s. Since they (mostly) don’t spend much time looking at wedding dresses, they don’t realize how modern it can look. I guarantee you that he will not hate your dress on the wedding day! It’s lovely. No need to change it.
Post # 6
You look beautiful in your dress with it just how it is! 🙂 I wouldn’t change a thing.
Post # 7
@misslineman: I just spent the last 20 min or so scouring their website and finally found something that said items purchased in store cannot be returned or exchanged. And I was pissed…I cried he apologized and felt bad…but he is still on the fence about it. I wish he had never seen it because I would not be going through this if he hadn’t.
Post # 8
@Sevillealaube: I really hope he doesn’t hate it…I thought it would be perfect for our summer wedding and look super classy next to his Dress Blues…I just want him to love it…or at least act like he does >.>
Post # 9
If you love it, leave it alone! I think it really shows off your slender figure. Alterations can be expensive. If you truly want a mermaid it might be easier/cheaper to get a new dress altogether.
However, I would be more upset with him hacking your email and telling you he doesn’t support your choice instead of being worried about how he feels about the dress.
Post # 10
@Goofball: He didn’t realize I had bought a dress yet. I told him I went shopping but I didn’t tell him I bought anything. I guess I was a little vague when I said “I think I found the one”…or at least I was to him. So he didn’t think he would be hurting anything….not the best excuse ever, but still.
Post # 11
So he is currently in town (visiting me) so I rolled over and this is how our conversation went.
Me: “I like my dress, support me in my decision!”
FI: “Haha, ok”
Me: “and like it on our wedding day!”
Post # 12
@Goofball: +1 I love how the dress looks in the pics and personally wouldn’t change a thing. But it would be easier to start a new dress search if the goal is to have a mermaid style dress.
Post # 13
@KT_Hime: You look beautiful and elegant!
Post # 14
@KT_Hime: I love the “assertive Katie” conversation — I think that’s perfect! And as reassurance, I think you look absolutely beautiful in your dress, and really HAPPY! Ultimately, I’m sure that’s what your fiance wants, so I’m so glad you just told him you love it and that’s the end of it!
As a side note, I was in a really similar situation — I purchased a dress, then a few weeks later I was watching say yes to the dress, and my fiance walked it right as a girl was trying it on, and said “OMG NO! That is horrible!” Luckily for me I was already hating my dress (implulse buy…) and had already pretty much decided to sell it and get another. Well, when he saw the photo of me in it that I took to post the dress for sale, his response was “wow!…”
So just remember, a random photo of the gown is not the same as YOU, the woman your fiance loves, in the gown. You love it, he’s going to love it, and you will both look amazing on yuor wedding day!
Post # 15
Looks beautiful on you…… I vote to leave it just as it is!!
Post # 16
I Wish I had the body for a dress like that 😀 YOU look fantabulous, lady! I am glad you had your assertive conversation with him – your wedding day will be perfect because you stuck to your guns on the dress you love 🙂