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I don't necessarily think it's mean. I occasionally post updates, but never anything specific or daily updates in your face sort of stuff. Actually all the posts that I've alluded to my wedding have been deleted b/c I like to delete old posts.
I'm going with no. Because I don't know how everyone else does fb... but I have my friends, my family, and then there are the people I went to school with, or people I kinda know..coworkers...and if i had to invite everyone who I was friends with on fb I couldn't afford it.
No. I think it's unrealistic to expect that people care that much that they'd be offended if you posted about something as big as a wedding. Every day might not be kind (or appealing), but to me, it's no big deal. How many people talk about their wedding in everyday life with people they're not inviting? I have, not because I brought it up necessarily, but because it came up.
It's not mean. I have tons of Facebook friends that won't be invited.
@JenniMichele: I probably should have picked "I'll explain below" instead of yes b/c I don't think it's mean exactly. However, I do think it's asking for trouble...especially if you have FB friends that you won't be inviting. You will probably get a lot of questions about when people can expect their invitations. Pretty awkward if you are not inviting them.
I don't think it's mean, but I do roll my eyes at people who post wedding updates all the time.
I would say no, and I post. I don't get too specific with anything, just a generic "we booked the caterer" or something equally as exciting to me. I have a mix of close friends on there and just people I know, and I would never think that my best friend from high school's brother would think that he would be invited.
I think it depends on the post. IF you are posting stuff like "Ceremony is at this place reception at this time to follow" and stuff like specific details, then I think it is unnecessary and will probably make some people upset...especially if there are friends on FB of yours that are not invited and thought they would be or would like to be etc. However, if you are posting something like "going dress shopping!" or "2 weeks to go!" then I dont think its rude at all!
I actually stopped posting wedding stuff on FB, after getting a couple Bridezilla comments... Grrr. !! And FI keeps pointing out that I'm the one trying to shrink the guest list, so it's prob not best to throw too much info out there... I dunno. Strange world we're in!
i think it can be good or bad - if all you post about is your wedding and all your details and how awesome its gonna be, yeah not great when people who read your stuff daily wont be invited (and im not talking about that long lost HS friend im talking about a person you work with or someone you see on a daily basis) or if you are posting stuff to attract attention or comments. (i posted about this type of status earlier....)
I think the OCCASIONAL status is fine, but keep it to a minimum - remember no one cares about your wedding like you do. after the initial couple weeks of "eeeeee! im engaged!!!" leave your venting to weddingbee and the ladies and leave FB out of it.
No, not mean. But I think you should be selective about what you post. I don't post anything specific about our ceremony or reception because I wouldn't want people that aren't invited to feel bad. I also think it's annoying when the only thing that someone posts about is their wedding. But the occassional post is just fine.
I agree with @JamaicaBride - it's not mean, but it could cause confusion among some people on whether they are invited. Of course, an occasional reference isn't bad - found my dress!, two weeks to go! - but keep the details out of your posts.
Consider this, though: Just this week, I figured out how to create a "secret" group on Facebook. (Seriously, you can choose between public, private and secret, which means no one even knows the group exists except the members.) So I created a "secret" Wedding group and added all of my Facebook friends who will be invited. Now I can post freely about wedding related stuff just to the people who care. (Still, you need to be careful not to overdo it!)
I think it depends on the way you do it and the frequency. I think the only things I've posted about the wedding are 1) when we got engaged and 2) when we went to do e-pics. Other than that I don't really know why I would post anything else. I'm sure as it gets closer I'll post a few things.
Grr... I wish I could edit my original post. The reason I asked this question was because I always see posts on the 'Bee ragging on people who post about their weddings. I get that it gets annoying if it's all the time, but I was wondering about the occasional wedding related post.
Anyway, what do you ladies think about posting links to the wedding website? Still ok, or not ok?
I, personally, wouldn't link to the website. I think that's something that should only be distributed to people who are invited.
I think that it can be done in good taste. Like one of my friends who got married back home kept posting updates about every single detail and some people (tacky move, but what can you do) would reply and ask if they were invited...Obviously, this is an example of not doing the status update with taste.
No, I don't think it's annoying or rude to, but... be prepared for lots of "Where's my invitation?" type comments. I refrained from posting about the wedding, honestly, because there a) was no point b) I didn't want to deal with passive aggressive comments or "bridezilla" comments.
I don't think its wrong or anything but I do have some opinions about it.
It doesn't bother me really, but it is irritating when girls post about their weddings constantly. Its like... god! don't you have anything else to talk about? I know thats mean or whatever and you probably all hate me but thats my opinion.
However the occasional update about dress shopping or number of days left is fine I guess
I don't think it's mean or bad, but I know I get a little annoyed when I see friends on my feed that are constantly posting about their wedding. I've found that other people don't really care at all. One of my friends said that if she could, she would not have posted anything on facebook- she said the more she talked about it, the more a few folks got interested in it and asked for invites!
I think saved it up for an occasional (once a month) post. I like people to know my wide variety of interests/highlights.
But I must say, since I get married,I post about marriage/hubby more often--perhaps twice a month and I'm sure my unmarried friends think it's too much since that's probably about 1/5 of my updates. But most of my friends are married and can relate. Ahhh well, I'm a newlywed.
Lately, when I post about DH/marriage it is only as a comment in response, after a conversation is started about a general update.
I'm friends with a girl from middle school. We never talk. But I like to see her statuses. She just got married, and she posted all sorts of stuff about it. I don't think it's rude AT ALL. I understand that she's not going to invite all her FB friends.
I guess I don't consider everyone on my FB friends page to be these super close BFFs, so I don't get why everyone is always whining about FB statuses. Don't like them? Hide them. Or block them. Or unfriend them. But for God's sake:
STOP COMPLAINING ABOUT THEIR DANG STATUSES.
/rant
(Sorry, I digressed a bit. Not directed at anyone in particular it just seems like every hour there's a new thread about FB statuses lately...)
@MightySapphire: Agreed. I try not to take every little facebook status as something to insult me with. Unless they're like "BEEKISS2 IS A COMPLETE B*TCH!" I usually just block people who are updating too much about their life (not that I hate them) just b/c I'd like to see other people's updates :)
@KMSull: I agree that there's no point, but I tend to think there's no point to FB statuses in general.
@MightySapphire: yeah there does seem to be a lot of threads lately in regards to facebook.
I agree with other posters who said that it's not necessarily bad or mean to post wedding updates so long as it's not overdone.
@JenniMichele: definitely wouldnt post the wedding website - thats only for folks invited. again, its rude to talk about something in front of someone thats not invited, so why post it if they arent invited??? and its kinda inviting party crashers.
@spaganya: I agree.
I see a lot of posts complaining about FB status updates, so I start to think, "So what is acceptable to update about?" LOL
Which is funny because I haven't even updated my FB status more than say, 5 times since the beginning of summer.
if you are posting things like "can't wait to spend the day with all the people in the world who matter to me", then yes.
i also wouldn't overdo it. vary it up a little. people will get annoyed with you if every update is "veil shopping!", "ring shopping!", "checking out venues"
99% of my FB friends are not invited. they all live out of state and are either 1. pplanning their own wedding 2. in college or 3. makin babies so they cannot afford to make the 1500 mile trip
I don't so much worry about upsetting those that aren't invited as much as annoying the heck out of everyone else. I know a girl who dedicated her status to a wedding countdown for over a year. I loved that she was excited, it was just obnoxious.
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Do you think it's wrong/bad/mean/etc. to post FB statuses about your wedding (when you have FB friends who will not be invited)?
Just curious...