Post # 1
I have read through many of the old ‘first look’ posts and am still struggling with the idea. After a previous question posed to the bees about my timeline options I am very strongly considering the following timeline:
Recieving line (at church) and travel time combined. then,
then program and dance
This timeline would mean that my FI and I would do all of our pictures together prior to the ceremony in an effort to minimize inconvenience to our out of town guests (reception in a small town with nowhere to go). I REALLY wanted the first time FI sees me to be when I am walking down the aisle but he says that moment will be special no matter what. Practicality is kind of winning for me in this instance.
Now my real question: how does it WORK? I think I might feel weird with the photographer there. I certainly do not want our families or bridal party there. Just me and him. Bad enough that you have to share that moment with the photographer. Also – we will be at our house. Odd – but I am considering bucking tradition altogether and having FI be the one who zips me into my wedding dress. Is this a horrible idea? Do you have any suggestions to make it better?
Post # 3
I can’t tell you how it will work out, but I can tell you we are doing this. We want to do this so that we can have as much time after the cermony with our family and friends as possible, so we are doing photos before the ceremony.
We are having our first look with just us and the photographer. The photographer will be at a nice distance so it will only feel like it is just us, but we want her around because we want that moment captured. The pictures that I have seen of this being done are priceless, to see both reactions and to have that moment captured forever will be amazing!
Post # 4
Be practical. You won’t even notice the photographer. And technically the photographer and however many guests you have coming to the wedding will be there to witness your responses as you walk down the aisle. But then it won’t really just be the two of you and you can’t whisper or say anything to each other. I really liked that aspect of seeing each other for the first time before the ceremony.
My photographer was only 15 feet away but I didn’t notice her at all. I don’t think my husband did either. And although my family and the bridal party were just inside (we had our pictures taken outside on a balcony) and they could see us through the window, I didn’t notice them either. And I definitely don’t think it changed the responses we had to each other. And it didn’t change our responses to each other when I entered the church or walked down the aisle.
I think the idea of having him zip up the dress seems to go too far though. I didn’t want my husband to see me until I was completely ready and get his first reaction to me on film. If he is zipping up the dress that means he will see you with your hair and makeup done but not in the dress. So his first reaction to how you look will not be of you with your hair and makeup done and in your beautiful dress but to your hair and makeup in your comfy getting ready clothes. I feel like its not as exciting of a revealing as it could be.
Post # 5
We did our first look in front of our house and we got ready in separate rooms for a surprise, with no one else but us and the photographers. It was great, tears and laughter, couldn’t imagine doing it another way! As others said, photographers are professional flies on the wall! You won’t notice them. 🙂
Post # 6
First look was my favorite momen of the day! It was just us and our photographer and videographer. Such a special moment to get to experience that moment of him seeing me for the first time in an intimate setting.
he cried during the first look and still was very emotionl as I walked down the aisle!
Post # 7
I agree with pp! You should have your mom or another woman who’s close to you zip you in your dress so the photographer can take that picture too!
Then you see you FI all perfect and ready to go. I’m so excited to do one. I think it’s way more intimate and special then the traditional aisle walk. Just the two of you! 🙂
Post # 8
We did first look. He cried then, as well as got emotional as I walked don the aisle. it was my favorite part of the wedding, sharing a private moment with him, and just talking to him before everything got crazy.
Post # 9
We didn’t do a “first look” but we took most of our pictures together before the ceremony – we’re not first look people. It was very efficient and we were still very emotional down the aisle. It is special no matter what. I would rather enjoy time with my guest than use that time to take pictures.