- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
I’ve seen a couple of other posts about future sister-in-laws on here … so I’ll be brief. I just need to spew for :30s without actually telling someone off to their face!
I don’t know my Future Sister-In-Law very well – but her family has told stories and she is not exactly a “classy” person. She likes to party and drink (I think she had a dui at one point) so a lot of her time and money are spent in bars … She has a stack of bad payday loan debt as high as the empire state building, but instead of dealing with it she ignores it – so my Fiance and their mom are always getting collections calls searching for her. Anytime she runs into any trouble she ignores it. I don’t want to judge or speculate but I wouldn’t be surprised if she has lawsuits pending against her or some other such nonsense. She has been unemployed for over 2 years now and everytime someone mentions “oh, such and such place is hiring” the response is “Oh, I don’t want to work there” (I’m sorry, but I was raised that if you need a job you’ll scoop poop if you have to and you can keep looking for something better in your free time!) and the people she associates with are … well … less than desirable friends shall we say. She has a history of going missing … doesn’t answer phone, email, facebook, anything – just goes missing for a few days, a week, a month and while everyone tries to get a hold of her and freaks out, randomly she shows back up like it never happened.
Long story short, I wanted to extend a nice gesture and I asked her to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man in our wedding in August. I thought it would please Future Mother-In-Law and FI’s family, and I don’t have many close friends who I could have asked. I know of her history from her family, but I figured since I personally had not dealt with her in any of those instances, I would give her the benefit of the doubt. I thought maybe I could be a positive influence and that having her focus and help with the wedding may be good for her (not to sound like I’m all that and a side of potato salad or anything but I thought maybe she just needed someone or something in her life to help start bringing her out of the slump).
So far, she had been good. I’d text her and she would reply pretty quickly – she came (on time!) to both my dress picking appointment and the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress picking appointment. She mentioned to my fiance, Future Mother-In-Law, and myself several times how excited & happy she is for the wedding … she even started a diet because she said it was something she’d been wanting to do & now had the motivation. I was pretty excited and was thinking, “hey, this might work out after all”. Until recently … since last week sometime no one has heard from her or been able to get a hold of her. Oh, great! However, sometimes she ignores family (because she doesn’t want to hear them try to help her) but will still talk to me a little bit (I guess she doesn’t figure I’m going to chew her out for her bad choices or something, lol).
So this morning I received an email for my other Bridesmaid or Best Man from the dress shop letting her know that her dress was ready for pick up. We all went together & ordered the dresses on the same day, so this obviously means FSIL’s is ready too (I only got email for other Bridesmaid or Best Man because she didn’t feel comfortable leaving hers with the store so I said it was OK for them to contact me in her place). I texted her enthusiastically to say “Hey I think your dress is in – it says you need to pick it up within 14 days or it gets restocked, let me know if you can get it or I can pick it up if you can’t make it. Yay!” – or something to that effect – cheery, excited, because I am happy they are here and thought she’d be excited. It’s been about 2 hours now since I texted her … nothing. So, now she’s doing it to me too. And the LAST thing Fiance & I need while we’re planning our wedding is to waste 1/2 the time chasing her down and trying to find her to be sure she’s getting her stuff taken care of.
Thanks, Bees for letting me vent. Back to work I go now … weeeeeeeeeee.