- 7 years ago
I’ve been with my boyfriend a long time, 11 years now. We’re 25 and 26 years old.
There’s this girl he’s known a while, didn’t know about her until several years into our relationship, someone that is in his group of friends– one of his groups of friends anyway.
I only met her in recent years. She acts weird around me. One of my boyfriend’s friends girlfriends has a problem with her because she keeps trying to get back with her boyfriend and they both can’t stand her. She does seem to be very “all over” every guy. She’s not a very pretty girl, and it really doesn’t matter, it bothers me just the same.
Now, the reason why she’s weird with me: when I first met her she made a point to say to my boyfriend right in front of me “I called you and left you a voice message but I never heard back! I got your call too and was calling you back!”
I’ll admit, he never got her call because it was a voice message that I deleted. I know his VM password because it’s his birth year. He never picks up the phone, he never has his phone with him, it’s always in his room or in his car. So one day I figured it out.
Anyway, because of that I got into getting curious out of sheer curiosity.
Continuing on why she’s weird with me– she asked me for my number at a wedding. I saw her put my name in: “Melanie 1”
Next time I saw her she said “I looked at my phone the next day and I was like “who’s Melanie Smith?” Like she tried to tell me she put my boyfriend’s last name onto my name when she really didn’t– kissing my butt basically.
Then while out she saw my boyfriend and gave him a big hug. She looked over at me and looked super surprised and said “Oh! I knew HE was here because I saw you first!” yeah right, that’s why you looked so surprised to see me?
Another time she told me about “the time he was over my house with these two other guys, oh my god I woke up the next morning, I said where is he?? Your bf left!” Like… okay…
So my boyfriend wasn’t picking up his phone tonight. I was getting annoyed. I checked his VM and there was another message from her, she said “Sorry I missed your call earlier, I hope you’re coming out tonight!”
I got so mad. He has told me in the past there’s nothing to worry about with her, she’s nothing to worry about…
I got so mad though that I told him when I got in touch “I had a weird dream about that girl, do you call her at all or does she still call you?” he sounded like he didn’t know what I was talking about and got mad and hung up on me. He said he didn’t want to even talk to me tonight.
It bothers me… he definitely lies about her, maybe he feels there’s no need to tell me the truth as there’s nothing going on??… he even tried to tell me he left her a voicemail on his friend’s phone (the time she said she missed his call– it was like january of this year)– the same friend that can’t stand her and wants her to leave his relationship with his girlfriend alone.
I don’t think anything is going on. I know guys have female friends but obviously as we’ve been together a while this is out of character– a bit. I mean, obviously this has been going on a while. I know they get together when everyone’s around.
God… now he’s mad at me…