Post # 1
I sent the cousin and his then-girlfriend an STD.
They broke up (which I am thrilled about, when we went to dinner over there, she took her shirt off and paraded around in front of FI. anyway.)
cousin asks if he can bring his best friend instead since he doesn’t want to drive the whole way alone (it’s a long drive, like 10 hours.)
What do we think? I’m inclined to say no–I don’t know the friend, and I’ve only met the cousin like twice. I don’t want to be heartless if he’s hurting about the breakup, but it’s a small wedding–40 people, so I don’t want it to be people I don’t know.
Also, whatever I decide here, about this situation, if cousin and his ex get back together in the next two months, am I required to re-extend the invite?
Help me with this please!
Post # 3
*bump* anyone have advice on this?
Post # 4
Honestly, if you budgeted for it, I’d let him bring someone.
Post # 5
Maybe tell him that it’s okay for his friend to come to the reception, but you’d prefer if the friend didn’t attend the ceremony since it will only be close friends and family.
Post # 6
Is this FI’s cousin? I’d let FI decide, if that’s the case. Have you sent out your invites yet? Did you send them before the breakup? If you haven’t sent out invites, I’d just send one to the cousin (no date), assuming that’s what you are doing to any other single guests.
Post # 7
I’d let the guest come. If your cousin is driving a long way, it would be nice to split the trip with someone else. Furthermore, does your cousin know anyone else at the wedding besides family? You already had that “guest” slot allocated to someone he was bringing anyway, so why not let him fill it? He’ll be more comfortable, and not feel like a fish out of water. In the end, it’s your wedding, and you’re going to be happy no matter what. Give a guy a break and spread the cheer. 🙂
Post # 8
Oh wait, you’re married already. NUTS! I should read the date of post before I respond. Hope it worked out!