another inlaw post concerning my baby

posted 2 years ago in Parenting
Post # 2
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7265 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

If my Inlaws made up lies about my child being the smelly kid in class and calling CPS, there is NO way they would still be involved in our lives or our kid’s life, and DH would completely support that.

Post # 5
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856 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Mrslovebug:  wow I would not put up w this! When is your lease up? Do they babysit your 6 year old too? They sound horrible. 

Post # 7
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2519 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Mrslovebug:  + 1 to all the previous posters. Make some boundaries NOW. Also you do NOT have to drop your baby off. This is YOUR child and they are only so little for so long, you should not have to give her them to watch every week UNLESS you want to.

I would say no to the next weekend. Just see what happens. Nobody is entitled to your child aside from the childs parents. Your DH should really grow a backbone and stand up for you especially after all the bizarre and crazy behavior from before.

Post # 8
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5285 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2009 - New York, NY

Cory_loves_this_girl:  +1

Mrslovebug:  For less than that (MIL talked badly about me to my kids when they were little), DH stopped taking them to visit MIL for about 6 months.  He only went back once MIL reached out and apologized.  After that, she understood she needed to respect me if she wanted a relationship with DH and her grandkids.  My kids are 21 and 23 now and after that we have been able to keep a warm and respectful relationship.  

Your husband is key here.  He must send a clear message to your IL’s and follow through with drastic measures if they don’t come around.

Post # 9
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2047 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Mrslovebug:  you need to MOVE THE HELL AWAY from them when your lease is up. If my IL’s could peek in on us from the same street/come over everytime we leave the house I would be snapping my shyte off!!

Is there a reason you guys picked that location?

Post # 10
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1487 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Mrslovebug:  You need to make it clear now that you are no pushover and if thy continue to threaten or make comments about your parenting they are CUT OFF and your DH needs to make this loud and clear. They are insane and walking all over you. There is no way in hell DH or I would put up with anything like this.

Explain this concept to them as plainly as possible:The more controlling and crazy you get, the less you will see her.

Post # 12
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602 posts
Busy bee

How could you allow these assholes to have a relationship with your child when they made up lies about social services getting involved? That’s insane. If my IL’s even dared to demand a relationship with my child, I would not so kindly tell them to fuck off and die. These people are toxic and you’re letting them influence your children. It doesn’t matter what your husband says. You carried those kids and gave them life. You are the deciding factor in all things concerning them. If you don’t want to give your in laws your baby, you do not have to. If your husband has a problem with that then screw him. If you don’t deal with this shit now it’s only going to get worse. Your in laws think that they have some kind of right to your child. They do not. They get to have whatever relationship that you allow them to have. Given the circumstances, they should be mere aquaintenances with the occasional supervised visit and ONLY if they’re on their best behavior. When adults act like children, they get treated like children. 

Post # 13
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602 posts
Busy bee

Your husband needs to grow a set of balls and stand up to these people. You and your children are his family and his main priority. If my husband proved to be such a pussy, he would no longer be my husband. 

Post # 14
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1256 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

ilovebacon:  +10000000. OP I cannot believe you are letting them see your child. It’s mind boggling. 

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