(Closed) Another mama drama story…

posted 7 years ago in Family
  • poll: What would you do?
    Bite my tongue and make the best of it. : (4 votes)
    50 %
    Continue to make attempts to involve her. : (1 votes)
    13 %
    Ask her to do a specific task. : (2 votes)
    25 %
    Confront her. : (1 votes)
    13 %
  • Post # 3
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    230 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Sounds like you tried, and she’s either too lazy or to apathetic to really get involved.  She may also be doing it on purpose, so that down the road she can complain about how little she was involved, and how she never wanted her name on the invite like that.  I’m not trying to scare you, but she does sound like that kind of person.  Just keep all your ducks in a row, and know that you did your best to get her involved.  Good luck!!  🙂

    Post # 4
    Member
    445 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I think short of assigning her something VERY specific… you’re just going to feel like you’re running in circles trying to make her feel like a part of this.

    I know I went through the same thing with my mom. She would ask to be “included” and I’d send her all of the info and then she would ask me what she was supposed to do with it and tell me that she felt it “disrespectful” that I did x y and z without thinking of my parents. She continued to feel left out, so I assigned her a DIY project for her to make brooch bouquets. Well, originally I assigned her the task of helping me find a dress….but she didn’t listen to anything and would just ask me to do all the work while she told me why she didn’t like what I found…UGH! The DIY project has her excited. So, if she can actually pull together and get it done (here’s me not holding my breath) it will be fantastic. If she can’t, I’ll just do it last minute and thank her for getting it started and collecting the brooches (even though I did most of that anyway….). It gives her something VERY specific to focus on. If she thinks of the whole wedding, she starts telling me I need to order sample bridesmaids dresses or something equally ridiculous and not budget friendly.

    Oh the games we play…. Keep looking forward though! Try something specific like a DIY project. It may help narrow the focus. If she refuses what you suggest, then ask her to come up with something better that she would like to contribute. If she still doesn’t come through…then you’ll know she’s just blowing smoke.

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