- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
We got married last weekend and my husband and I went through a book of options from our JOP to write our ceremony. I know before I got the book I had been searching high and low for options, but here it is if anyone needs some inspiration. We didn’t do any specific readings, other than our vows being Mark Twain, and our ceremony was only 15 minutes long.
Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. A good marriage must be created. Marriage is an art. The little things are the big things. It is never being too old to hold hands. It is remembering to say “I love you” at least once a day. It is never going to sleep angry. It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon, it should continue through all the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives. It is standing together facing the world. It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family. It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.
It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways. It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo or the wife to have wings of an angel. It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humour. It is having the capacity to forgive and forget. It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow. It is finding room for the things of the spirit. It is a common search for the good and the beautiful. It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and obligation is reciprocal. It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.
In marriage, take the time to give each other more. Take the time to be gentle; remember that words harshly spoken trouble the spirit. Take the time to talk to each other; the secret to all understanding is in open communication. Don’t be afraid to say what’s on your mind, and listen wisely. Take the time to remember that you chose one another to learn and to grow with; you each have something valuable to offer. Be a good teacher and a good student. Take the time to be alone, so that you can gather your innermost thoughts and share them with each other when you’re together; take the time to make it the way you want it. If change is needed, do it gracefully. Take the time to be loving; it is the one thing everyone needs. Always, in marriage, take the time to give each other more.
Do you BrideFather, BrideMother, GroomFather and GroomMother honour and support Marlew and Mr. Marlew now and throughout their lives together?
(They respond “we do”).
And to all of you, family and friends gathered here tonight, you have been called to be witnesses to this wedding because of your friendship and your special relationships to the bride and groom and their families. I ask if you affirm this marriage and give it your blessing by giving them your joyous applause.
(The guests applaud).
marlew and Mr. marlew, before this moment, you have been many things to one another–acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, and even teacher, for you have learned much from one another. Now you will say a few words that will take you across a threshold of life. For after these vows, you shall say to the world,
This – is my husband;
This – is my wife.
Are you ready to say your vows?
(marlew and mr respond “I am”).
mr marlew/marlew, will you look to your bride/groom, and will you repeat after me…
I cannot promise you a life of sunshine;
I cannot promise riches, wealth or gold;
I cannot promise you an easy pathway
That leads away from change or growing old.
But I can promise all my heart’s devotion
A smile to chase away your tears of sorrow;
A love that’s true and ever growing;
A hand to hold in yours through each tomorrow.
From the earliest times, the circle has been a symbol of completeness, a symbol of committed love. An unbroken and never ending circle symbolizes a commitment of love that is also never ending.
mr marlew and marlew, as often as either of you looks at this symbol, you will be reminded of the commitment to love each other, which you have made today.
Mr. Marlew/marlew, will you place this ring on Mr. Marlew’s/marlew’s finger, and while holding that ring will you say to her/him. . . . .
Mr. Marlew/marlew, I give you this ring,
And I pledge my love to you.
Mr. Marlew, now please take marlew’s engagement ring. This ring is a symbol of promise and intent. Now, the intention is realized, and the promise fulfilled. Please place this ring above marlew’s wedding band to symbolize that the love which brought you together will always protect and sustain your marriage.
Mr. Marlew and Marlew, keep your passion alive – it will warm you when the world around you grows cold. It will not allow comfortable familiarity to rob you of that special glow that comes with loving deeply. It can lift you over stone walls of anger and carry you across vast deserts of alienation. But its greatest gift is that of touch – for passion cannot dwell in solitude – it thrives best in loving embrace. So keep your passion alive – hold one another as a tree holds the earth and your love will bear the fruit of many, many seasons.
Mr. Marlew and marlew, you have declared your love and commitment to each other here today and have made your pledge, each to the other, symbolized by the holding of hands and the giving and receiving of rings. Therefore, I, JOP Name, pronounce that you are husband and wife.
Mr. Marlew and marlew, you may now seal your vows with a kiss!
It is my very great pleasure to be the first to introduce Mr. and Mrs. A and B Marlew!