Post # 1
….of my FACEBOOK FRIENDS.
I know its completely unnecessary and probably pretty redundant to post about the Facebook thing, but I can’t help it.
However–I think I have made some improvements to my mentality regarding the explosion of engagement posts lately.
6 months ago, my initial reaction upon logging in a seeing that obligatory ring photo with 75 comments was something like this:
“ARE-YOU-F***ING-KIDDING-ME?ANOTHER-ONE?COME-ON!SHE-WAS-A-HORRIBLE-PERSON-IN-HIGH-SCHOOL-OH-MY-GOD!” Angry, angry, bitter, angry.
Now its something like this:
“Aw crap, another one. Well…its pretty. He did good. That’s nice. Good for her! WHY NOT ME!?” Bitter, happy, happy, JEALOUS.
A girl I know, a freshman in high school when I was a senior, posted this morning that she is engaged. Comparison is the worst thing you can do for yourself as a waiting bee, but its a knee-jerk reaction and I can’t help it. But my attitude is much improved and it makes me excited to be able to post one day about MINE.
And might I say — Congrats to all the newly enaged bees! There have been a bunch this week!
Post # 3
@MissRuthie: Ha ha well baby steps then.
I know it seems like everyone else but you is getting married but in due time. I know you know that but I am going to leave there anyway. 😉
My Darling Husband and I were the last of our friends to get married and now that we are TTC we are the last to not yet have a baby. Daily I see pregnant ladies or see pregnancy announcements on FB and I feel the same way you do about engagements….lucky bee-yotches. 😛
Post # 4
@MissRuthie: i know the feeling! all of a sudden with my close friends there was a flurry of engagements this year! and nothing for me….i mean, i’m giddy with excitement for all of them, and the past couple weeks everyone’s engagement photo sessions are coming up, making me feel ecstatic and “awww” at first, then it just turns to sadness for myself…..ugh! my turn! lol 🙂
Post # 5
I know this feeling all too well. It’s extremely common where I live for people to get engaged young and fast and often, so I see an engagement at least once every couple of days. It’s extremely frustrating and VERY difficult not to compare. I’m especially a little disappointed coming back from the “this might be it” trip without even a hint of a ring… and I’ve see 2 engagements since I’ve landed.
Stay strong! Our times will come and be totally worth the wait. 🙂
Post # 6
@MissRuthie: YUP, I know what you mean. The first of my old college friends to announce her engagement on Facebook got engaged last week. There have been others, but this is the first one that I’ve seen on there. It was kind of a hit to the self-esteem, but I was still really happy for her.
Post # 7
@MissRuthie: hahaha. This is totally me! I’ve mentioned before that I’ve just plain had to stay off facebook for that reason!! I too have felt jealous, anger, bitterness and frustration!
This blog has helped me to realize that maybe every woman waits in some form, so its been helpful for me to take a step back and try to consider that whoever just got engaged has probably been waiting too.
Example: I used to feel a little jealous of my SO’s new SIL. She would NOT shut up about getting married 2 days before her big 30th birthday like it was the only thing that mattered (and, that bitch stole MY life goal hahaha!!). I felt more sympathetic towards her once I realized that her two younger sisters were both there at her wedding with their husbands…meaning that they had already been married and I’m sure that it didn’t feel very good for her to have to deal with that.
Anyway, thinking about what other women have probably been through with their own personal waiting process (and if not marriage, maybe it’s TTC or finding the right job), helps me to NOT get angry, jealous, bitter but instead I can be happier for them 🙂