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I'm thirty and I get the "look" in bridal shops. I'm an encore, but still - It's so rude!
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Slowpoke--I have similar experiences and honestly I'd rather elope but my FI is ten years younger so he wants a wedding. My family just isn't talking about it so at least I don't have to hear snide remarks. It's my first wedding and my 7yo daughter and FI are very excited about it so I'm focusing on their enthusiasm. All I can say is enjoy your planning and focus what's important to you. Screw the rest of them :-)
@shaema - I agree. " Eff 'em if they can't take a joke" is a regular one of my phrases for that reaction and snide comments I get.
Well, I'll be a first time bride at the age of 45 when my date rolls around. Yes, I'm going the very traditional route with a church ceremony & a club reception. But, no dance. No garter, no bouquet toss. I've gotten a fair number of inquiries about my planning and no one seems to think it's inappropriate. I did register, not because I expect gifts, but because I think it's time to replace some of my stuff & using the completion discounts won't hurt.
Hi, Slowpoke! I just have finally decided to think about us (late-bloomers) as "modern," and people who only think you can have a wedding at 25 as "out of date." Think of movie stars who have splashy weddings past 40. Happens all the time.
You go ladies. I'm 36 and get looks sometimes also. I'm also a first timer. Somewhere on the ideas board is a post of mine asking for a special board for us more mature ( please suggest a better word) board. Check it out and vote for the idea.
Although I still fill young (32), I think that my wedding was much more sophistaced and reflective of who we are as a couple, than say, if I married my 22 year old boyfriend.
I recently attended a friends wedding, and they are in the mid to late 30s. It was fabulous. Seriously, I look at is an opportunity throw a much more chic affair!!!
wow, thanks for all the comments and support. How did each of you decide what type wedding you wanted? i.e. large, small, church, outdoor, few people, lots of people? I agree that all of us are very modern and will have much more memorable events than the typical twentysomething!
Well young lady; my hubby and I are both 50 and we had a grand time of it! We had a lovely outdoor garden wedding, followed by a simple reception afterwards. Then we had a pig roast the next day! I did all the planning myself, because no one wanted to help me! I bought just about everything off the internet because the bridal salons made me feel a billion years old! Feel free to checkout the photo gallery at our wedding web site if you need some ideas! http://john dee809.wedquarters.com
I'm 40 here! I look early 30's and only had issues w/one dress shop. When I had the issue, my business sashayed out the door and will never return!
We make up a decent size of the wedding market now and it's time the retailers took notice of us. This is why I'm so happy WB decided (Thanks Mr. and Mrs. Bee!) to have an Encore board just for us and for older brides too! Encore is also for any groom who's been previously married.
Congrats to you, you beautiful, wonderful 40 something first time bride! We're here to say welcome and I wish you all the joy in the world! Embrace this time in your life. We'll be here supportive of you always! So happy you're here.
Just got married for the first time on 9/6 at 42. The wedding I had at 42 is probably very different than what I would have chosen in my 20's or even my early 30's but in a good way! My priorities are different now and I think we had a much more memorable event than if we had been married years ago. I didn't really experience too many comments about my age or maybe I just didn't hear them! Either way I'm so, so glad I waited.
I think it is great how as you age, your priorities change, and your style changes. Where I grew up, most people got married young, so 29 & 31 was actually kinda old!
I know not all young brides are this way, but I just felt like some of the young brides I ran into seemed more into playing barbie dressup than building a sustainable marriage...at least I know at 22 I had a lot better use for $2K+ than to get the fanciest dress.
I know someone that just got married and is guessing..in her 50s...at first I was surprised at some of the pictures...but you know what...I saw HOW HAPPY she was! and it was contagious! For me, I am religious, so I say, if you want a church wedding, it shouldn't matter WHAT your circumstances are...go for it!
@slowpoke- 40 is the new 30 girl! You wear the wedding dress loud and proud! Sex and the City says it all....
Wear that dress you wonderful bride you!
And I will shout it from the rooftops..."40 THE NEW 30"!!!!!!!
Amen sister brides!!!
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I am so low-tech on blogs, etc but when I saw this post I had to attempt to chime in! bridedenise and sleepylittlesailor - you took the words right out of my head! I am 48, never married (49 in November) and just became engaged. A few friends have been very supportive along the way - we have been discussing marriage even prior to "official" engagement, but I definitely see a difference in people's attitudes and perceptions - even though I am a first-time bride. Suggestions of JOP, Minister's Office, Elopement, etc. When we told my 82 year old mother I asked if she would do things differently than she did (big church wedding) she replied, well, my situation was different - I was young - 26. Implying something about my age I guess! Only my 17-yr old niece seems very excited about planning!
I too am well-educated, well-traveled, own my own business, but somehow that doesn't count with weddings if you've passed some arbitrary age (30, 35??) Anyway, thanks for all your input. We are trying to decide when, where, how, etc. and I appreciate all I'm learning from you guys.