Post # 1
Let me start off with:
Now that that’s done. Why can’t adults just rsvp? I don’t understand. We sent our invites early, so that people would have plenty of time to make travel plans if necessary. We did both paper and online RSVP, we had a website, and email address to RSVP to, and I had to personally talk to the majority of my guests to see if the are coming. I only got about 10 unprompted RSVP’s. Apparently because we are having a small wedding, no one thought they had to RSVP, why would you assume that? I am still waiting for 15 people who just won’t give me an answer. I cannot read minds, I need someone to tell me yes or no. I love all these people dearly, but sometimes they drive me nuts.
Post # 3
@serendipity9.8: I guess you need to learn to read minds. 🙂 I totally understand. Our date is 3 months away, but we sent out our invites uber early because half of our guests were OOT. I am still waiting on hearing from people, but come a month before I think I will have some ranting to do as well.
Post # 4
I totally feel your pain. We are going to a wedding two weeks before ours that is a lot of the same people, and the bride couldn’t even bother to send our rsvp back! We had to have FMIL call and find out if she and her new hubby are coming…
Post # 5
@Firinne: Telepathy would seriously help wedding planning! Most of our guests are OOT as well. I hope you have better luck than I have. Mythe odds be in your favor 🙂
@Westwood: A majority of our guests are already married. I have no explanation for why recently married (or engaged) couples don’t RSVP. It is beyond my comprehension. Sorry you know the feeling.
Post # 6
I feel your pain! Our RSVP date was Saturday, we still have 40 invites that are MIA! Now we have people calling our immediate family, confirming with them that they are coming! Guh! Its our wedding, shouldnt you be calling us? And now people who were unable to come are calling and saying they are coming? oh my! :o)
Post # 7
It’s frustrating when you’re trying to plan and you just want people to respond – but if your wedding date is really Sept. 8, you’re over a month away. (though JUST barely!!) That’s kind of early for an RSVP deadline. Usually your venue/caterer needs a headcount 2 weeks in advance, if you build in about 5 days or a week of “margin” to follow up that still puts a deadline for RSVPs at 3 weeks prior to an event.
You might actually have a couple guests who don’t know if they can get the time off work just yet. (Especially if they’re within driving distance.)
The waiting can be tough – but these are people you care about and who care about you – they (probably) aren’t TRYING to make you go crazy!
Post # 8
I am so right there with you! Our wedding is a month away and we still have a huge list of people who haven’t responded. Complicating matters further is the hotel reservations. Our wedding is in a relatively remote location and most of our guests need to stay there that night. I don’t understand why adults can’t make a decision about whether they would like to attend our wedding and whether they would like a hotel room that night.
I told my fiance last night that no matter what, we will always RSVP right away when we get a wedding inviation in the future!
Post # 9
Soooo many people assumed they did not have to RSVP for our wedding because we should “know they were coming.” Except there were so many people that I thought were coming that couldn’t and vice versa. So how should I know that?!
Post # 10
@UmbrellaMoon: There are only about 3 people who are waiting to hear about their work schedules, they’ve been nice enough to talk to us about it, and that I understand. I made the RSVP date early because we need to get the numbers to the venue 3 weeks prior. I figured there would be a week of me chasing people down. A month ahead isn’t too early though, I know a lot of people whose venues needed head counts 30 days out.
@greenviolets: I’ve gotten a lot of “I thought you knew I was coming?” We’ve had a lot of flip flopping guests too. It’s an adventure keeping track of everyone who said yes, and then later said no, and vice versa
Post # 11
2 ppl brought their rsvp cards to our wedding. =(
Post # 12
I feel ya 100% on this issue! SOO frustrating, and it literally takes 2 minutes to RSVP! My wedding is next saturday and I STILLLLL have people who keep changing there RSVP to yes then to no then to yes again.. I’m trying to learn to just laugh it off but its like comeeee onnnn!!!!
Post # 13
I totally feel your pain-Our “RSVP by” date is in eleven days, and out of 60 we’ve gotten 10 back. I even put postage on the postcards! All they had to do was check yes or no and drop it in the mail!
Post # 14
@aliu19: Oh my, that’s terrible!
I’m trying not to be too annoyed with everyone. Most of the time I’m pretty laid back about it, which I guess is what gave everyone the impression that it’s not a big deal. I always have, and will continue, to send my RSVP as soon as I get them. lol