Post # 1
I’ve spent the past few days feeling like I must be crazy since my buyer’s remorse over my wedding dress purchase is on my mind constantly. I finally decided to google the topic and at least don’t feel so alone anymore. Here’s my vent:
I went to Kleinfeld’s last week with a good friend, just expecting to have a memorable experience and look at more dresses. However, of course, I found a beautiful Alita Graham dress (http://www.projectwedding.com/wedding-dresses/designer/alita-graham/7316?offset=21), one that encompasses everything I’ve come to love in a dress (lace, beading, the “dip” in the top). It fit me like a glove and makes me feel beautiful. I had a “moment” with the dress, becoming suddenly emotional (not a usual thing for me over something like clothing), and I really feel like this is the one.
I immediately felt terrible that my mom and sister were not there to see me and help out. Luckily, they have a webcam and so I was able to call my mom and have her see me in the dress. She’s 100% behind me and we decided to purchase the dress. It comes in later this week and I’m hoping that once it’s home and I can wear it again that I’ll feel confident.
I guess I just feel that this all went by too quickly. I only went out once to look w/ my mom and sister once before the Kleinfeld’s trip and now I feel like this “milestone” is over and gone. Has anyone felt this way…that they jumped too quickly and didn’t get to fully revel in the moment?
Part of me wants to go out again and look…especially since I got such a huge discount on the dress and I feel like I could maybe sell the original if I found something else…but part of me knows that would just be dangerous.
Post # 3
I know EXACTLY what you mean and went through it myself just this week! The dress I bought was a sample dress; it was in great condition and I got a really big discount on it. However, I did feel kind of pressured by the saleswoman, who kept saying, “Well we can’t hold it for you” or “It could get more damaged if you leave it here for another week or so”. So I bought the dress the same day I tried it on. I also felt like I missed out on the experience of looking around more and just seeing what else was out there.
So I did what you’re not supposed to do. I went to Kleinfeld’s this week and looked again. I figured if I was going to find something I loved, it would be there. And guess what? I didn’t find ANYTHING I loved nearly as much as my dress, or even really liked all that much. That’s not to say that there isn’t a dress out there that I would fall in love with, but I didn’t find it on that trip and I feel so much better about my dress.
I guess what I”m trying to say is that I think it’s totally normal not to feel 100% sure about your dress, and to me, it sounds like you’re more sad that the dress shopping experience is over–I was bummed about that too, since it’s not like I”ll ever have another opportunity to shop for a wedding dress for myself. Definitely wait to try on the dress again and see how you feel. Hopefully you’ll get those same feelings that caused you to buy the dress in the first place! 🙂
Post # 4
Wow, it’s gorgeous! I’d say wait at least until you can try it on again before deciding to go shopping again.
Honestly though, there’s so much else to plan… if I were in your shoes, I’d be glad to have found a gorgeous dress that you love with such relative ease. 🙂
Post # 6
The same thing happened to me! I went found my dress in one day and am a “think about it overnight” kind of girl but I bought it on the spot because they were having a sale. The one thing that helped was that I went and tried it on the next day and reminded myself of how beautiful it was. Try that!
Also, don’t look online a any more dresses. You’ll make it worse since there’s so many beautiful dresses out there!
Post # 7
I wouldn’t look at any more dresses. I think that because it has been a while, your mind begins to warp what the dress looked like on you and you start thinking that it didn’t look as good as you thought it did. I bought my dress pretty quickly and had doubts about it. It is a very pretty dress and you will look great it in on your wedding day I’m sure!
Post # 8
Nothing good can come of looking at more dresses in person. If you continue to look at dresses online, it may help to solidify your decision. I know the process of shopping can be exciting but if you keep your mind in an undecided state, you may never really settle.
Post # 9
*hug* – I totally feel your pain. I got home from buying my dress and immediately thought “What have I done?!” I brought a friend to the salon, but none of my bridesmaids were there, and I regretted making such a big choice without any of them there. But when all is said and done – you LOVED it when you tried it on! You had a moment! And that’s awesome! Your dress is gorgeous, and you should be thrilled to have found it so easily, since it’ll leave you with plenty of time to focus on other wedding-related details 🙂
Post # 10
Since the “milestone” of the dress has passed, perhaps create a milestone out of another important wedding wardrobe decision? Rehearsal dinner dress, a “going away outfit” for when you leave the reception, or if you’re having a next day brunch, something for that.