Another tipping post…

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
679 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Strawberryfarmer:  Hey, I actually am a personal chef. I usually work for one family, and they pay me hourly no matter how many people I serve. The larger the party, the larger the tip. But your chef seems to be making significantly more than I make for a party, at least double what I make and I usually cook for 80+ if I get a tip. 

She seems clear that she wants a tip, but I am telling you honestly that she is being paid very well for her services. Like, higher than anyone in our industry. In my book, if you own your own business, you don’t get a tip. 

As for the server, he/she will be serving 12 guests. That’s a large party. Imagine you were at a restaurant, you would tip 20%. I think that would be very generous of you, but I would go off of that. 

Post # 5
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I don’t think it seems unreasonable to tip the waiter $200 for serving.  I probably wouldn’t give the chef an additional tip unless I felt like she did an exceptional job.

Post # 6
1103 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

When they own their own business, no tip is appropriate It seems. For the server, I’d tip about $40 per hour, so $60 total. 

Post # 7
2894 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Strawberryfarmer: depends on if they consider themselves professionals or service industry folks. I’ve worked in professional services and wanting or expecting a tip is unprofessional. 

The chef owns her own business so she is free to negotiate the rate she wants. I am not tipping any vendor owners. The servers I’d tip depending on a variety of factors, including their hourly rate. If they work and make a service industry wage, then I would tip 15-20%, depending on the level of service delivered. 

I asked all of my vendors to itemize all services and OOP expenses. If appropriate, I’m tipping only on the services portion of the fee and not the OOPs.

To make the math easy in this case, I’d set aside $26/meal for the tip pool, but I’d also expect at least 2, if not 3 servers to handle my party. If it’s only one person trying to handle all 12 of us, I would imagine that service would suffer. The servers should split the tip pool. 

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