- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
I really just need to vent about this.
My sister moved in with my Fiance and I February 1st because she was getting evicted from her apartment for being 2 months behind in rent. She also had her heat and electricity shut off on her in January, a week before she moved out, because she hadn’t paid that bill in…I don’t even know honestly, but it must have been a while because she lived in northern Michigan practically on a lake and I’m sure they don’t just turn off the heat on a customer who didn’t pay their bill in a couple months. Either way, she didn’t have anywhere else to go, so my Fiance and I allowed her to move in with us.
It was a difficult decision, because I hate living with her and we’ve never gotten along when we’ve had to share living quarters. Even as kids. But, like I said, she had NO WHERE else to go, because she’s burned every bridge imaginable (our mother even said she wasn’t allowed to come back home because of the way my sister treats everyone in the house. It turns into a battleground every waking hour of the day. I’m not exaggerating). So, because I’m a freaking moron who didn’t want to see my sister on the street, we let her move in.
Unfortunately, she’s insane. I don’t mean that in a “You’re so crazy! lol” sort of way. I mean, I literally think that she’s an undiagnosed sociopath with bipolar disorder. And it’s gotten worse since the last time I had lived with her.
When she moved in with us, she was suddenly a lesbian and was in love with her girlfriend from northern Michigan. Literally 2 days after she moved in (LITERALLY) some random guy was coming over to our apartment and they were spending hours cuddling on the couch and holding hands and kissing. A few days later I overheard her breaking up with her girlfriend on the phone, telling her that this girl’s not making enough of an effort to show her she loves her, or something. I don’t even know. Either way, they break up and this guy continues to come over and has spent the night ever night for a week. She had been have sex with the guy since the second night she met him.
In order not to get sick to my stomach, we have to turn a fan in our bedroom on high so it drowns out any noises at night. Because despite telling her that the walls are paper thin and the heat vents help the noise travel, she doesn’t take anyone else into consideration.
She goes out and gets drunk anywhere from 3 to 5 nights a week. And when she comes home at 2:30am, she bangs doors, cupboards, closets, whatever, while laughing and yelling and carrying on, despite the fact that I was sleeping.
She is disgusting and refuses to clean anything in the house. She loaded and turned the dish washer on for the FIRST TIME last week. Another example from just this morning: I was making coffee. When I went to throw the filter from yesterday away in the trashcan, I opened the lid and she had dumped her cat’s entire litterbox contents into the COMMUNAL KITCHEN trash can. Not in a seperate bag or anything- She just dumped it all in.
She never paid February’s rent, last months heat/electricity, and owes me money for things she’s claimed we would “split” which brings her total to $311 owed.
I COULD GO ON.
I’ve talked to her calmly and rationally about every single thing I’ve mentioned. I’ve also hollered at her and sent her text messages about it. I have tried every means imaginable, except for physically handwriting a note, to communicate with her about everything. She just doesn’t care.
I guess I’ll end it here. This has gotten too long and I doubt anyone will read this entire thing anyway. This seriously was a monster of a post.
I’ve talked to my Fiance about every little thing that’s bothered me, but it’s gotten to the point (and I don’t blame him) that it pisses him off and he wants her gone. Regardless of whether she’ll be homeless or not, he doesn’t want her in our home if she’s going to continue to act the way she has since she’s moved in.
I’m not looking for advice, I really just needed to vent. I don’t have a whole lot of girlfriends I could talk to, and my mother is dealing with her own stress right now (she just had surgery, is sick with pneumonia, etc), so I’m turning to you ladies for a shoulder to lean on.
Thanks for listening.