Another VENT! I'm joining the BM vent club!

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
Member
1613 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@hartmamp:  Is she a friend or relative? Can you talk to her about it?

Post # 4
Member
855 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

The person she should have brought those concerns to is you, but since she didn’t have the ability to do so, take her to the side and have a conversation with her. Don’t let it be BUT I DID THIS FOR YOUR WEDDING, but hey, I hear you have some concerns, let’s talk about them

Post # 5
Member
5932 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@hartmamp:  ….whenever I hear things second hand, I find its best to act as if I never heard them at all….this informant BM could have misunderstood, or taken this out of context, I honestly wonder what she hoped to accomplish by telling you at all….not to mention we’re all entitled to vent about things without fear of being snitched on….its not like she cried foul in your face about it…so let it go and ask your other 6 BMs to be more discreet about their conversations…no one likes a gossip.

Post # 7
Member
5932 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@hartmamp:  …I guess I’m just at a loss over this entire thing.  If that email wasn’t addressed to you WHY ON EARTH would your other BM forward it to you unless she honest to god wanted to stir up some drama…I mean, how would you feel if someone did that to you???? I guess it doesn’t matter now, you’ve let the tiger loose with that excerise is passive aggressivity…..prepare for an explosion and enjoy!

Post # 9
Member
62 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@hartmamp:  I feel sorry for your BM. Sounds like you’re an expert at making excuses to try and justify your poor behavior. Hope you grow out of that stage. What you did (replying to the email) was wrong and inappropriate, even if you don’t see that.

Anyway…I’ll echo the words of Nona99 “prepare for an explosion and enjoy!”

Post # 11
Member
62 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@hartmamp:  Because I’m the type of person who would WANT to know if someone was unhappy.

This, for starters. You made up a bull shit excuse as to why it was even remotely appropriate for this girl to forward you this email and for why you were excused to respond to it. This email was not sent to you. This email should not have been forwarded to you. You should not have replied to the email.

 

But that completely contradicts your previous statement as to why this BM forwarded you this email:

The reason why this BM forwarded it to me was because it was not the first  incident, and we all know how awful of a person this particular crappy BM can be.

 

This doesn’t make it sound like you give a shit about her happiness. Sounds like it was to inform you of drama. So see what I mean… you’re excellent at making excuses… your excuses just conflict each other.

Post # 12
Member
2788 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Why are you friends with someone you don’t respect or care about? I’m guessing that your wedding party’s lack of understanding and compassion. 

You should have been more clear with your girls as obviously at least one felt you were expecting the world. Misunderstanding or not, the girl receiving that email never should have forwarded to you, all it succeeded in doing is creating drama between this other girl and yourself. 

Post # 15
Member
62 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@hartmamp:  You’re making an excuse as to why the BM who forwarded you this wasn’t wrong in forwarding it to you, and you’re avoiding anything related to you’re complete lack of judgement by replying to it. That is what you’re missing. Are you really that daft? All you’re doing is making more excuses (and yes, I am using this terminology quite correctly, thank you very much). You are trying to excuse your inappropriate behavior and your other BM’s inappropriate behavior. How can you not see that?

Post # 16
Member
5932 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@hartmamp:  Don’t kid a kidder lady, no one WANTS to know if a person they refer to as an “awful person” and “particular crappy BM” is unhappy or not…..I get that you feel you went out of your way to make this an easy, cost effective bridal party to be in, and you say that 6 out of 7 of your BM’s appreciates it.  That doesn’t mean you should let an errant e-mail, which was none of your business anyway, upset you in the least, or create this shoolyard hair-pulling contest you’re starting via e-mail….it only spells trouble and stands to divide your bridal party causing more trouble for you and you alone.

 

Leave a comment


Sent weekly. You may unsubscribe at any time.

Find Amazing Vendors