(Closed) another weekend– no ring shopping again

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
5007 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Hmmm I would give him some time, maybe he’s having some anxiety over the whole thing. I bet if you don’t bring it up for a while he’ll get there on his own. I know it will be hard, but you don’t want to pressure him if he’s not ready…

Post # 4
522 posts
Busy bee

I think you need to sit down and not mention the ring but just reassure yourself that you are on the same page.

Try not to use accusatory phrasing (“You always make up excuses” “You’re stringing me along”) and instead use “I” focused phrasing (“I would feel uncomfortable buying a house without a commitment. What kind of timeframe were you thinking of for the proposal?”)

Try to approach this topic by envisioning the two of you as being part of a team trying to work together to solve the problem instead of it being you vs. him.

Be calm, be rational and try to listen to his statements without getting upset.

Huge hugs! I hope you get to the bottom of this.

Post # 5
1607 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Maybe he already picked something out? or changed his mind about you shopping with him but doesn’t know how to tell you? My Fiance wouldnt LET me shop with him, and everytime I brought up what I liked he squashed it (until it was being made, actually, then he indulged me for 6 weeks.)   Maybe he just wants to be more traditional!

All of this is not to say you can’t go alone! I dragged pretty much all of my female friends shopping with me for months before I got engaged because I was dying to look and Fiance wouldn’t go!

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