Answering those lumming questions we all dread (rantish ugh)

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

Are they really that mad?  You might be putting a lot of this stress on yourself.  Try and breathe and concentrate on the fact that you’re marrying your soulmate!  Nothing else really matters.

Post # 5
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3344 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

I gave up the fight over plus ones eventually.  It just wasn’t worth the stress of fighting over.  We invited 100 people, gave everyone the option of a plus one, and only 48 people came.  Lots didn’t even use the plus ones.  So, it didn’t end up affecting our budget.

If people don’t want to go to your wedding and they’re going to say rude crap like that, then screw them.  Again, this is about you and your fiance getting married.  I promise you that that will overshadow everything else that happens on your big day.  Try to not let these people get to you.

Post # 7
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’ll never get the “I want to bring this guy I’m casually seeing/my BFF to your wedding” thing!

You shound like you’ve been more than generous with giving out +1s!

Post # 9
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6964 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Klein2bReidy:  I would start screening my calls and asking people who are relaying “so and so is mad at you” to stop telling you about it. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

@Klein2bReidy:  “Yeah they have talked to other family member saying “I may not come if I can’t bring a date””

If that’s their only reason for not coming, and they aren’t in some real deep serious relationship, then that doesn’t say a lot about how much they respect you and your FI.  I would rather have them not come at that point.

As for the GM… Is it possible he’s just too broke to afford going to pre-wedding things?  He may have assumed the tux was covered, and now that he knows it isn’t, is stressing about how to pay for it.

Post # 12
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1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Klein2bReidy:  Just try to look at the positive.  If these people are really being that pissy and don’t come, your wedding will be less expensive!

Post # 15
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1793 posts
Buzzing bee

Have you broken up any established couples and only invited one of them?  I can’t understand truly single guests getting their panties is such a wad over a plus 1, but I can understand if you split couples up.

Post # 16
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682 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Klein2bReidy:  While on here reading some of the posts a lot of brides have said they pay for their wedding parties dresses .. I was discussing with one of my co-workers and asked DO I HAVE TO PAY FOR MY BM DRESSES?! Her response was no which was what I wanted to hear she said she thinks that is a southern thing .. I have 2 sisters that got married in the same year and I paid for both of my BM dresses for their weddings. Even discussing with my mom she said no you dont have to pay for their dresses.

Being asked to be a BM or GM is an honor and for your FI GM’s to back out I think that is disrespectful (depending on the situation)

And for the people asking for the plus ones .. Just tell them nicely we are over our budget and it would be best to just have them there. They will understand when they plan their wedding one day.

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