(Closed) Answers and more waiting

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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103 posts
Blushing bee

@Rananteriel:  

Your feelings mirror my own! Bleh!!!!

Its hard watching every1 else progressing within their relationships when you feel yours is going nowhere!  your man sounds like a proud man, wanting to provide you with a ring that is special to you, I mean he could have just given you the family ring and got it over and done with but clearly you are worth more to him. plus could u imagine having to have the “I know she is your dead relative but her ring is hidious” talk?

It can put a dent in any mans pride when work dries up. Show him that regardless of his work/financial situation you love him! When he is happier within himself, his actions and thoughts will mirror this!

Good luck hunni {{hugs}}

Post # 4
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452 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013 - Garden

Waiting sucks. But I promise it will get better! I pestered my FI for months about getting engaged, to the point where I realised I was spoiling the whole experience for him too. It was easier said than done, but I tried to remind myself that we have the rest of our lives and in the grand scheme of things, the ring was coming sooner rather than later. I stayed away from ring threads and did my very best to not think about it too much.

Bringing it up with close family/friends also helps. I told everyone that I didn’t think it would happen for a long time, and somehow it felt like since they didn’t expect a proposal, the pressure was off me too, if that makes any sense?

Of course I slipped up anyway. There were times when I’d hear about people planning their weddings and having babies and I’d cry and he’d feel sad that I was so upset about it. But my FI loves to set goals for himself and he needed to sort a few things out before he asked me.

I know that when you’re waiting, there’s nothing that anyone can say to make it better. And it’s even harder when you need to be happy for other people who seem to have what you want. Just trust that one day (not too far into the future), everything you want to happen will start to happen, and it will be so much better if you give yourself a bit of a break and just try to enjoy things for a while.

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