(Closed) Anthropologie gift from my sister

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

you’re mad that she sent you a gift?

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I would just enjoy the cute little towels. Maybe she was just trying to cheer you up, even if she can’t/won’t contribute to the wedding.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think those are ADORABLE.  Whether you can use them in the wedding or not.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

i guess i don’t understand the extent of the background story. But, those towels are cute! It doesn’t seem like she meant to send them just for the wedding or to be spiteful.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Those seem more like a wedding present than a present for use in the wedding. She was probably just trying to be nice and give you something that you wouldn’t have bought for yourself.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I love the towels.  and honestly I think you are being *gasp* a bit emotional right now. I know its the stresses of money and planning a wedding but you shouldnt be angry about how someone else spends their money, especially when they are spending it on a gift for you.

Just enjoy the gift for what it is….something awesome from anthropology that your sister knew you would never buy for yourself because of money constraints.

 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

i actually saw those at the store last weekend, and wished i knew someone having a wedding shower soon because they seemed like such a sweet gift! even if you can’t use them for the wedding, you can still use them at home, can’t you? i always need more dish towels…

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Is it normal for a sibling to contribute financially to a wedding? I wouldn’t expect it, no matter how wealthy she is…it just crosses all sorts of boundaries. Especially since you’ve told her that you don’t want her giving unwelcome advice!

Love the towels, btw. 🙂

 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I am so confused. Was she supposed to buy you decorations or something? Those towels are cute!

 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m sorry that you’re upset with your sister, but just be thankful for the gift. I have seen these many, many times, and I am secretly hoping to receive them as a wedding present. 

They may not be useful to your wedding, but they ARE useful. They’re dishtowels. Hang them in your home after you get married and be happy that your slster loves you and thought of you. 

Post # 13
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think that she knows things are so tight with the wedding that she wanted to buy you something fun for yourself since she knew you couldn’t do it right now.

She’s trying to be really nice. You have a life and needs outside of your wedding. This is her acknowledging that.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I agree with the other bees.  I guess there is more behind this than the thread shows.  I think I would take it as a peace offering from your big fight.  Plus it is sweet…. I have a friend who bought me a necklace with our wedding date on it and a little gem that was the october birthstone (october wedding).  I cant wear it in the wedding, and it wont be useful towards my budget but it is sweet and thoughtful. Much like the towels.

Is there any reason for you to think she would help you pay for the wedding other than the fact that she is wealthy? I only ask because I also have a wealthy sibling but it never crossed my mind that she would help pay for my wedding. Is this something your family does?

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

@sfchick: your sister is under no financial obligation to help with YOUR wedding.  i think it is lovely that she gave you a little gift from a store you love after your spat.  i think you need to cut her some slack.  after all, her financial situation is not anyone’s business but her own, and it sounds like she is already contributing effort to your wedding (helping with the flowers).  can’t ask for much more than that.  i would be thrilled if my sister were that excited for my wedding!

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