Post # 1
I don’t know what is wrong with me. The WHOLE time I’ve been shopping for a dress and planning my wedding, I have been going on and on about how I don’t think I’m a veil bride, how I don’t understand their appeal, how I don’t understand why people think a piece of tulle on your head suddenly makes you a bride, etc.
I was (and still am) pretty set on just having a really pretty flower fascinator in my hair.
Then the 100 Layer Cake blog had to fuss things up. They featured a woman who wanted help finding a veil with her dress, and showed a GORGEOUS veil from Twigs and Honey.
It’s soft. It’s flowy. It’s a square shape attached flat to the head to create a two tier veil. It has a dainty lace hem. The girls in the picture look so sweet and vintage and pretty.
Ugh. What is my problem.
I can admittedly say two things about this feeling I’m having. The first is that this veil probably wouldn’t even look right with my dress, as it is square and my dress is not angular in the slightest.
(As you can see, the styles really don’t match)
The second is that I think what is affecting me the most is with the way it’s marketed. Good photography is everything.
Has anybody else fallen in love with something that didn’t go with their wedding because it was marketed so well?
Post # 3
Yes but usually when I go see things in person or try them on, my original feeling comes back of not wanting it. Still I have to go see that for myself.
Post # 4
I agree with the PP. Things look beautiful on models and when I try them on I realize it’s not going to work for me.
Post # 5
@bride2beIn2012: No doubt! I completely changed my bridesmaids colors when I actually saw the colors in person and saw what would look right with my dress.
Unfortunately, this veil is custom order only, so there’s no chance of me trying it on in person. So, I just have to keep reminding myself that if I saw it in person, I probably wouldn’t like it.
Post # 6
It is a beautiful veil for sure, but I think you just need to remember why you didn’t want one in the first place! Plus, I don’t know that it would really match your dress…it might, but I wouldn’t risk a custom order if you don’t know because you can’t see it in person first! I agree though…damn that marketing! Those pics are stunning! (And so are you!)
Post # 7
@KaitlinHudson: Absolutely. This post really is just as much about advertising as it is my out-of-character veil love.
I’m actually in school for fashion merchandising, so I’m well aware of how companies (large and small) try to tug at your heart strings and make you want to love an item so much that you have to have it. Even knowing this, I am clearly no exception to the rule.
Post # 8
I went on and on about not wanting a veil. When I picked up my dress everyone kept telling me to try one. I tried a birdcage, which looked horrible on me. That was the only veil I thought I’d even remotely like. Then I tried on a fingertip length veil and I loved it. And now my Future Mother-In-Law is being wonderful and making me a veil since the one I fell in love with was $400 and I was having trouble finding one comparable. I even bought a flower for my hair so now I guess that’ll just be for the reception.
Post # 9
@dance: Aww, thank you so much for the kind words!
And I agree, without seeing it in person, my gut reaction is that it doesn’t match.
And I’ve tried on veils. I’ve tried on tons of veils (sales consultants like to make you try them on) I didn’t care for them at all.
I never got to try on a flat one (that wasn’t gathered at the top) but I don’t know how much that would honestly change my opinion,
Post # 10
@mandb122: That’s how I’ve been too (minus the finding one I’m in love with part).
I considered buying a yard of silk tulle and trying it out without the lace just to see how I like the look of it, and then if I liked it I could either buy lace and make the veil myself or I could splurge and order the one from Twigs and Honey.
Alternately, there is also a less expensive veil on etsy that has the same shape, and is only $57, but it’s also white, and my dress is ivory/champagne.
See how pretty it is when it’s all draped in the back? (Clearly not helping to talk myself out of it)
Post # 11
I think that veil would look lovely with your dress. I can’t see the gowns that it’s pictured with very well, but they don’t look angular to me.
That said, I think you need to stay true to your original vision.
I recently experienced this same thing. This is my vision of how I want to look on my wedding day:
And then someone else posted this, and I completely love the look:
I think we look at so many ideas, that we lose focus of our original vision and buy into something that we might not have otherwise considered. Of course, that is the goal of advertising, to separate us from our money.
Post # 12
@Loribeth: My goodness! Is she blingy or what?
I have this reaction to birdcage veils, especially. I love them. I think they’re gorgeous. I try them on and I hate them. Every. single. time.
I don’t *hate* regular bridal veils, I just don’t love them either. I’m very “eh” about them. I’ve always said that it’s not that I hate veils, it’s that I hate brides who don’t wear the right veil with her dress.
Also, I think it’s robbery to charge $200+ for tulle. I realize it’s usually fancy silk tulle and that if it’s beaded then there is lots of hand stitching involved, but still. That’s a lot to pay for a piece of fabric that goes on your head.