Post # 1
After 3 years apart we are now down to just a few months before we move to the same place together. Just 2 months till he is done with his degree and he will move right after that. I’m not sure when I am moving yet but probably 1 -6 weeks after him depending on a few things.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m super excited to be with FI again but I’m really get anxious about the move. I don’t know when I’m moving, I’m don’t know if I will be able to transfer my job to our new location or if I want to transfer my job. I’m nervous to tell my company, they don’t know yet. I’m anxious about possibly having to find a new job. I need to rent my condo but I don’t know when, I don’t know where I’ll live if it rents early. I’m not sure how I’ll move and if my family can help me. I’m also anxious about the wedding, I won’t be local anymore and I don’t know what I have to go done while I’m still local. Will I need to come back before to finish things?
Besides the logistics I’m nervous about a new city where I don’t know anymore and where I might be umemployed. I already feel homesick for my family that I’ll be leaving. I feel like I’m on a countdown, two more months of being able to have sunday dinners with my family.
Any advice from some LDR bee’s that made the transition or moved to a new place with their SO?
Post # 3
Well, I’m not moving yet, not until May I believe. And around that time I will be graduating grad school while trying to find a job as well. My fiance and I have always been long distance and I’m so excited to be in the same city, much less house!!! Yay 🙂 I’m not anxious at the moment, but I know I will be… especially because there will be so much change at once.
I will say that I’m planning my wedding (as of now) long distance. I go every once in a while to the location. But for the most part, I’m fine doing everything from here. I’m not sure what you’ll need as the date gets closer, but I’m guessing you may have to visit at least once beforehand. Everything else should be smooth sailing 🙂
Post # 4
I hear ya! I’ll be moving in with my FI a month after the wedding. I’ll have just graduated, and will not be able to work. I’m trying not to even think of the logistics of the move (Ugh! packing, trailers, long drives, NO THANKS lol!)
For now I am focusing on the fun stuff. Actually getting to see my FI when he gets home from work everyday. Sleeping in on weekends. Grocery shopping and going to the gym together.
I’ve moved a lot, and have always found that it’s best just to jump right in when you get to a new city. Find a gym and go to a regular class. Walk around your new neighborhood at length. Look for a place to volunteer until you start working. Join a club of some sort. And of course, put your girly stamp on your new home to make it feel like your own right away.
It’ll be a fun new adventure. Try to think of it as such. Good Luck!
Post # 5
YES! I love how you also pick out the “everyday” activites that your looking forward to! I think since I’m the only LDR person I know, its very hard for me to convey my desire for the simple things everyone else takes for granted. Like Shopping.. doing laundry together.. cooking a meal.. hehe When I visit him I LOVE to clean his apartment and do his laundry not only because it makes me feel good doing things together but it also makes me feel more of a.. I guess girlfriend!
But on topic! hehe I understand about leaving friends and family to an extent. I really don’t have close friends here anymore and all my family moved across the country and my mother passed away a few years ago. I will most likely be unemployed like you! which is something I’m not looking forward to! I know what you mean about being in awhole new place! I mean I’m from MI and he lives in Chicago and everything is different! I have no turn arounds, all new driving laws and different shopping places! Also one of the over the counter medication I like isn’t sold there! crazy!
but then I like the other women think of all the things that make me sad and cry that I miss out on being in a LDR and realize I get to wake up next to him every morning! get a kiss before I leave everyday! heck! I can kiss him as many times as I want and I know I will never have to leave him again.
I think really putting your mind on the positives will help 🙂 plus it will give your family and friends great excuses to come and visit and now with all this technology you can chat online or via video and call 🙂
Post # 6
I am nervous about moving but excited to be with my FI. I am moving in the summer and then getting married in Sept. We will live together for 3 months before the wedding, but I am a bit worried that it will be a bit hard on me because I am moving away from family and then I wont have a job right away.
Post # 7
I was so nervous too about being together after so much time apart, moving to a new city, etc. It was easier than I thought in a lot of ways. FI wa so supportive of me, and I did have work right away (albeit from home, which made it harder to make friends). We transitioned fairly well to being together, but I didn’t like where we were at all, and making friends was difficult. I felt isolated at times. After a lot of discussions and eight months of being together, I moved to another city for work and now HE is coming HERE in a few more months – so now I am nervous about being the supportive one and he is nervous about not having a job etc. I think we will get through it, but it is defintiely anxiety producing. good luck!