Post # 1
As the day inches closer and closer I become more and more worried about the wedding going smoothly and everyone having a good time.
We are blending three cultures. My parents are Russian -American, I’m American, (born there, raised here), and FI and his family is Italian. Obviously we can’t please everyone in every aspect but have tried to keep things even in terms of all cultures and expectations being represented and met. I ‘m just so worried that this will create a mish mashed feeling. I keep worrying about our Russian guests not liking the American music or about the American guests not like the Russian food, etc etc.
I’m really driving myself crazy.
Anyone have any pre-wedding anxieties that turned out to be completely silly? Has anyone had a totally successful wedding that blended many cultures?
Please tell me everything is going to be ok.
Post # 3
It’s going to be ok. Keep your eyes on the prize; you’re almost there!
I’ll be totally honest, 2 years after the fact, I’ve gotten over pretty much everything that went wrong at my wedding. It wasn’t perfect, and although I was upset about some things even a couple months afterward, it’s all gone away now. Now, when I think back on my wedding, the only things I remember are all the wonderful moments (like seeing my husband tear up watching me walk down the aisle or all our guests giving us a standing ovation at the end of our first dance). Your wedding probably won’t be perfect, you may have some hiccups, but all of that bad stuff fades away. 🙂 Good luck! You’re going to be fine, I’m sure!
Post # 4
You can’t please everyone. I think if you incorporate a little bit of every culture that should please most of your guests. I think multicultural weddings are unique and interesting so I’m sure everything will be fine. IT WILL all WORK out and it WILL be WONDERFUL! 🙂
Post # 5
It seems to me Russian food is pretty delicious and if your Russian guests have been in America for a while they’ll understand that even if they don’t like the music it’s a necessary evil.
I’m in a similar situation: my family is Greek, his is Canadian (and so are all our friends). We’re going to start the evening with Greek music to please the old people and then, when it gets to their bed time, we’ll go more modern.
Post # 6
@Meowkers: I was worried about people enjoying themselves but they all did and everyone said so. It will run smoothly no matter what – I had a centre piece missing (partly mine and the florists fault), you may have the odd thing that doesn’t work out as you wanted it to, but everyone will look after you.
Post # 7
mmmm, I’ve never had Russian food. What is it like?
Post # 8
Everything will be wonderful and run smoothly I’m sure!! Don’t worry so much… we have such big expectations for the wedding day. And so do our parents and close friends I’m sure too. But I think most of the guests just want to witness some love, eat some food and have a good time. Hopefully no one will be put off if the food isn’t to their taste or they don’t like the music so much. It’ll be a fun time and everyone will enjoy themselves! Stay positive!