Post # 1
So I’m super psyched to be engaged and the idea that I’m gonna MARRY HIM is amazing…
Maybe too amazing.
I’ve had a few “big event” situations before, nothing like this, but times where I have to be observed or do something major. It’s always fine once things get rolling and I relax a lot but in the lead-up, I have panic attacks which trigger IBS issues – nausea and… y’know, some acting up on the other end. What doesn’t help is that I also have a phobia of nausea and vomiting, so if I feel queasy, the panic attack gets worse. No matter how happy and excited I am, I know what’s gonna go down. I get these feelings even for good times on the way. I should see a doctor, but it’s not in the cards at the moment.
I’ve been given sedatives in the past for situations that are high level triggers (flying, the dentist, and being on a boat) but I’m very sensitive and they knock me out hard… I’m not talking about drowsiness, I’m talking about “oh look, I’m asleep and had no choice in the matter.” Works great for getting fillings or getting on a plane but not so good for a wedding day. For times I have to stay awake I typically take some imodium and power through it, but for this, I’d rather just be chill the whole time. I want pretty getting ready photos that don’t look like I’m about to puke.
So what would anyone recommend for my wedding day? (Preferably that plays nicely with imodium/pepto bismol, because those are just gonna happen with breakfast no matter what.)
Any ideas what I should eat/drink/swallow to calm down and keep my insides inside?
Post # 3
Wow, I could have written this post. I have IBS, anxiety, and a phobia of vomiting! What exactly have you been prescribed, how much, and by whom? I ask this because I am in the mental health field and know quite a bit about meds. I take Ativan, a benzodiazepine, as needed, and it does not sedate me. I took klonopin for six years but it stopped working, and Valium didn’t do much either. But everyones experience with meds is different.
I’m not sure yet what I will do the days before my wedding and during it. I also get baaaad anticipatory anxiety before big events, and my IBS will flare up. I’ll probably not want to eat much, which is bad, but it’s how I handle my phobia. I’ve read others on here who have IBS recommend Imodium as well for the day of. I recommend getting in with a psychiatrist and/or therapist as soon as possible because a psych will know more about meds for anxiety than a regular doctor.
Post # 4
@seevan07: For the dentist thing I was prescribed a low dose of valium, which was really excellent but made me semi-sleepy (oddly as it started to wear off) and for flying/boats I was sort of “casually recommended” (by the same physician) to just take a normal dose of dramamine, which is wonderful and miraculous both to make me not feel queasy and to make me not feel anxious, but also gives me a serious case of involuntary naps. I’m super super sensitive to sedation of any kind though, if something “may cause drowsiness” it will probably incapacitate me. When they suggest you not drive or operate heavy machinery, they’re talking to me.
I would looooove to go to a doctor! Right now though I’m living abroad working for an agency that likes to find reasons to stop contracting people who make life even a tiny bit complicated and doctor patient confidentiality here is not really a hundred percent. (Doesn’t sound great but my lifestyle is otherwise super fun) Add to that the headache of having to find a doctor of any kind (let alone a specialist) that even speaks my language enough to give them my experience and it’s probably clear why I haven’t gotten the medical ball rolling yet haha.
I’m probably overthinking it/worrying too much. I just have been looking at other girls’ getting ready photos and they look so happy and relaxed and to me that’s some kind of sorcery.
Post # 5
@Bebealways: Had same type of issues. My wedding morning consisted of BLAND breakfast…watch the coffee or drink it early, took a Xanaz, an immodium pill & had a glass of champagne abour an hour before walking down the aisle…all was perfection!
Post # 6
There aren’t really too many pharmaceutical solutions for the intestinal symptoms IBS besides Immodium, PeptoBismol, Dramamine and other over-the-counter medications.
The most important thing is avoiding your triggers. Obviously, you can’t avoid the stress/anxiety, but are there other things that make it worse? Some common ones are alcohol, fried foods, dairy, and soda/coffee.
You can also talk with your doctor and take a very low dose of a sedative like Xanax or Valium? You can always have him/her prescribe the lowest dose and then take half of that. Consider doing a trial beforehand to see how you react. Also, if the anxiety is something more common/everyday for you, you can consider an antidepressant approved for the treatment of anxiety.
I really feel for you – I have similar problems. I use trigger avoidance with pretty good success, but its those darn nerves that are hard to get rid of! Best of luck, and I’m sure you will find a solution that works for you.
Post # 7
I had the exact same issues for ages. I finally went to see a naturopath and she worked miracles for me! I’d highly recommend going to see one and finding some natural anti-anxiety remedies that work best for you. I found they were far gentler than anything “medicated” and didn’t have any side effects. She put me on Ortho-Adapt (which comes regular or vegan) as a natural anti-anxiety reducer, and I also took Rescue Remedy drops which just go under your tongue (they taste awful but they work). That did the trick for me! I ended up just needing to take a couple drops about halfway through the day at the wedding, but otherwise I was feeling great!
Just make sure you see a naturopath before you start taking anything, she spent a lot of time figuring out what the right path was for me, and I’m sure it’s not the same solution for everyone just like any course of medical treatment!
Post # 8
@bakerella: Natyuropaths rock. Mine has me on a few things including vitamin D and B12 but also a pill called happy sense and it works wonders. I use to take antidepressants and honestly these work better (Im less stressed about taking them).
Post # 9
@naturalysam: 100% agree. I finally went to one because my doctor gave up on helping me figure out what was wrong, and when I said it was an anxiety trigger at this point, he just gave me a prescription for Adavan and called it a day. I wasn’t thrilled with that response, so I researched and found a naturopath locally. Best decision I ever made. Within a month I was feeling 99.9% better, she was AMAZING! I still email her to say thanks and give her updates of how I’m feeling and what’s new 🙂 I feel like I got my life back!
I did try a couple of the Adavan, and I just didn’t like the way they made me feel, and in general, I’d rather not take meds if I can avoid it. I absolutely love my naturopath and I think it was the best choice I made in regards to taking charge of my situation! I’m glad to hear you’ve also had a positive experience with the same types of issues!
Post # 10
@Bebealways: simmilar to bakerella and naturalysam, I would suggest a naturopath.
I have the same issues as you (just without the vomitting part), and that is one thing at the back of my mind for my wedding, that I am a bit worried about.
I can pretty much guarantee that I won’t be eating anything until after the ceremony (thankfully it will be done by 1:30pm). I will also have a bottle of Pepto-bismal on me
My naturopath suggested for me to take Glycine for my anxiety. It is a powder that tastes very sweet, and I allow it to disolve under my tounge. I will be taking the entire jar with me that day.
I did all of the above for my BFF’s wedding last year (I was a MOH), and everything went smoothly
Best of luck!
Post # 11
Wow! Thank you all so much. I’m so amazed by the responses, I was afraid when I posted this that people would think I was a neurotic loony or secretly afraid to get married or something, but the support has been wonderful and I don’t feel so alone now.
A naturopath would be PERFECT. I was saying that I live abroad in Korea, and mental doctor stuff can be sensitive with my job, but the people I work with/for are crazy about anything that even sounds like “chinese traditional medicine” (and it does sound close to someone who doesn’t necessarily know the english word naturopath, even though they’re not the same) and they think it’s something everyone should do, so it would neatly solve that problem as well.
I have a friend who’s been going to one the last couple of months for sleep problems and back pain and she’s had a lot of success, so I might try to find out more about that.
Even getting a naturopath to help me with something gentle to take the edge off would be lovely… I actually bought some “Bach’s rescue remedy pastilles” but they tasted so bad I have no idea if they work or not, I couldn’t eat the whole thing. Drops sound waaay better.
And y’all reminded me I need to go back to taking vitamin D! (I’m allergic to the sun so it’s a long standing problem.)
Post # 12
find something that works for you before the wedding so that the day of, you trust it and you know it won’t upset your stomach. For me, it’s tea.
Post # 13
You could also try sticking to bland easy to digest meals before the wedding, and make sure you eat on a regular schedule. While it wont get rid of the anxiety/IBS issues, it may lessen how severe they are. I know when I get nervous I don’t want to eat, but then the empty stomach actually makes me feel worse, where if I force myself to eat I’ll feel a little better.