(Closed) Anxiety fueled rant (long)

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
Member
2651 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

@Cornmuffin09:   Yikes. I am sorry that this is happening. If it were me,I would NOT apologise, it’s your life not hers. Also I would inform her that since she married a man who was previously married she’s commiting adultery.  Also a sin. ” I’ll see you in hell with me!”

 

 

Post # 4
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5429 posts
Bee Keeper

Who is paying for college? Can you get a job and can you afford to move out? Looks like if you live under your stepmom’s roof you have to obey her rules, BUT you didn’t have sex in her house so it shouldn’t be her business… Really? apologize to her? How absurd!

Post # 5
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623 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

How on earth did your step mother find out that you have had sex?

Ugh, I feel for you. I will never understand the crap some people choose to worry about.

Post # 6
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623 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

So she guilts people, screams during arguments and makes unreasonable demands but YOU are unchristian because you had sex before marriage.

This is why I hate religion.

Post # 7
Member
734 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Apologize for your decision, as an adult, that should only involve you and your SO… hmm..

I just don’t get it. Why does she take it so personally that two people had sex? Just gives me the chills that she would think you two having sex had anything to do with her… yuck.

I wouldn’t apologize, not even to fake it and “make nice”. Its not worth it… if you’re in college you are an adult and it is none of her business what so ever.

@theone99:  +1 …. ditto!!

Post # 9
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2305 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

@theone99:  

@theone99:  I think that’s an unfair statement. Not all relgious people are crazy.

OP, does your step mom support you at all while you’re going to college?

If you are supporting yourself, I really feel like you should give her the ultimatium you have, of either stopping calling you a harlot and treating you like an awful person; or to remove her from your life.  I would go to her with your statement, start with it and reply to everything she says with it. If she says that she doesn’t want to have anything to do with you, then say thankyou, and get out of her house. Stick by your ultimatium. Hold your ground. You do not deserve to be called names, and she does not deserve to have you in her life. Talk to your father, don’t cut him out, just cut her out. I feel like from your post you do not respect this woman, and she obviously doesn’t respect you. Even if you start crying, I’m like that too. I get overly emotional in arguements. But it’s ok. Wipe your tears, and cut her off.

 

Post # 11
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2305 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Ohh I just saw your update. I don’t have a suggestion about how to keep your relationship with your dad and step sister. I’m sorry you’re going through this, and that this woman is ruining your life and friendships.

Post # 13
Member
336 posts
Helper bee

If you don’t mind me asking, how old are you OP?

I honestly don’t think it is your parents business who you sleep with unless you are underage or at risk. Your relationship with your SO does not sound like you are ‘at risk’. 

Post # 15
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2305 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

@Cornmuffin09:  that really sucks. I’m sorry you have such an evil step mother.

 

Post # 16
Member
3555 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I feel like the only right people should have over other people’s sexual choices is the right to not have to hear about them. Your choices are absolutely none of her business and you should not apologize. You are an adult and therefore get to make the adult decisions in your life whether she likes it or not. I would try to be as polite as possible and deliver your ultimatum without many extra comments. If you stick to your script you have less chance of saying something you’ll regret later or something that could cause a larger rift than already exists. If you must, say your piece and then leave the room/house. It can’t hurt to give them some time to think about it rather than experience their first emotional respose to it.

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