Post # 1
I suffer from anxiety, panic attacks and have an nervous stomache. I feel like since my wedding is coming up in only 4 months all of the symptoms are showing up more frequently. I feel nauseous frequently and wake up in the night with my heart racing and feel a panic attack coming. I find it really hard to sleep during the night this past month and I’m sooooooooo tired when I get up in the morning. I dont know what I’m so worried about because almost everything is done for my wedding except for a few minor things but I still cant relax! Fiance tells me to relax all the time but it is easier said then done! Anyone else feeling this way? Am I the only one?
Post # 3
@sweetchiquita12: Anxiety runs in my family but I pray a lot and I usually don’t have any. However, my wedding is on 3/17 and I’m trying to lose weight so I would say that is definitely freaking me out.
Post # 4
That happened to me to during wedding planning. I was also a full time grad student at the time, so it was doubled. I ended up seeing the student couseling office weekly and had to be prescribed Prozac and Xanax to manage the panic attacks. I couldn’t handle the anxiety well enough on my own to still be productive at school. 🙁 The wedding is over and I’m out on rotation now and I’ve been able to stop taking one of the meds. Things are so much calmer now 🙂
You are definitely not the only one!!! Don’t be afraid to ask for extra help from family, counseling, church, or who/whereever else you think would be best!
Post # 5
@LuluInLove: I’m in the same weight loss boat as you and its making it even harder!
@calypso522: I’m glad to hear I’m not the only one! I have been thinking alot about going on meds but my fiance thinks I shouldnt . I might consider it though cause it is getting worse
Post # 6
I have anxiety issues and I struggle a lot. Staying busy is the best thing for me to do!
SO… I work fulltime in a stressful job, go to school part-time online, bake cakes for $, cook constantly, plan my wedding. It’s a lot but it uses up all that extra energy!
Post # 7
If you can afford it, I’d suggest finding a good therapist. Even seeing one for a few months may be of great help to you. I’ve suffered from pretty terrible anxiety my whole life, and yes after I got engaged there was a spike in my general anxiousness. I almost talked my fiance into an elopement because I couldn’t handle the idea of walking down the aisle in front of 200 people!
Not long after we got engaged I sought therapy, not just for the wedding but because I was tired in general of dealing with this problem. Turns out I only needed about five months worth of therapy to get to a much better, healthier place where the anxiety isn’t gone, but I can at least deal with it and continue to function without being miserable. We didn’t focus on the wedding specifically, but I bet if you did focus only on the wedding in a few sessions you’d feel a lot better…
I realize that therapy isn’t the best option for everyone, but it was a positive experience for me and I thought I would suggest it.
Post # 8
OP, FI suffers from depression and anxiety and I have anxiety, so we’re a fun couple to be around while we’re planning a wedding. We both can’t wait for it to be over so we can go on with our lives.
Post # 9
@sweetchiquita12: You’re not the only one!
I’ve suffered with anxiety and depression for most of my life, and since I got engaged a couple of months ago, I’ve had trouble sleeping a lot of the time, been almost constantly nauseated, broken down sobbing several times, etc. It really sucks.
I’ve tried therapy and medication at various points, but nothing really seems to help much. I think what actually helps me most is writing. I’ve always loved to write, and a lot of times getting out all of my fears, frustrations, anxieties, etc. in a journal makes me feel better. I know this doesn’t work for everyone (it doesn’t even always work for me), but it can help most of the time.
I also agree with Jw1724 … Staying busy can really help as well. I’ve been working out frequently (which also helps with my weight loss goals!), I’m starting a class paid for by my company (it’s for further growth and development with the company) next week, and I volunteer once a week with my local hospice (though I’ve been doing that for a little over 1.5 years now). I think finding things that you’re interested in and enjoy can really shift your focus to something more positive instead of allowing the anxious thoughts to consume you.
I hope you’re able to find something that works well for you. It’s crazy because wedding planning is such a happy and exciting time for most people, but it’s also incredibly stressful … And for people with anxiety, it can be completely overwhelming. I feel lucky because my fiance has been very supportive … I hope you have that same support!