Anxiety of a girl in waiting

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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1207 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@nerdybee:  congrats on the impending proposal! Maybe this would be the time to take a look at Mr. Bees plan? It involves doing more for yourself…maybe hit the gym or take a class, anything that can take your focus off the other stuff. I admit that I’m also guilty of agonizing over details like how were gonna get money for a wedding when we need to get our house ready for selling and then we’ll need a new house and we warn kids sooner than later and the list goes on and on. Those things will be there to stress you out after you get engaged, not now! Good luck! 🙂

Post # 5
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138 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@nerdybee:  I am in a similar boat. I pretty much know my SO will be purchasing the ring soon and I know what some of his “I thought this was traditional” proposal ideas are, so I would ruin it for myself the second I sensed the set-up going on. I finally flat out told him recently in a conversation about proposals, “Look, I love the romantic idea of having my hair and makeup perfect, wearing a pretty dress, and getting a heartfelt public proposal in front of a waterfall…but that’s just not realistic for us. The second I think something might be planned, I’ll ruin the whole thing in my head and it won’t be a surprise. When you decide you’re ready….do it on a random Tuesday when I’m in my pajamas or something. Don’t give me time to predict it. I’m too observant and my mind works too fast. As long as you’ve asked my dad for permission, and you say something cute, it will be perfect.”

It took some pressure off and now I’m confident that my overactive female brain won’t ruin it!

I would definitely do as they said above and stay busy with a hobby or anything you enjoy doing. Then it’ll come and you’ll have that whirlwind planning time (which stresses me out to think about too, I agree with your every word there!) But definitely don’t worry about that bridge until you come to it.

If all else fails, vent to us! That’s what we’re all doing here! Smile 

Post # 7
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1207 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@nerdybee:  hey, we’re all in the same boat honey! everyone needs to let out their pre engagement anxiety! I should use the bee for that more often, to be honest. As far as preplanning I think it’s ok to pin stuff but I haven’t really done much of that. My favorite thing us to ogle rings and watch all the wedding shows. whenever I tried to plan, I just realize that I have champagne tastes and a beer budget and I get frustrated, so I gave that up. Thankfully I’m in school so that should keep me busy.

i havent showed anyone pics of the ring I’m getting, not here or IRL Besides my mom. It’s the only “surprise” element I have left since an actual engagement won’t shock anyone (after 8 yrs it’s expected, right lol). So I say, keep it to yourself if you want! Hopefully your wait is short and sweet!

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