- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2015
I have been with my FI for close to seven years, engaged for three. I love him, and he loves me. He suffers from Bipolar disorder, and has had his ups and downs. He has even been in a hospital for two weeks due to taking cold medication that interacted with his anti depressants and made him severely depressed. He has even been in homeless shelters, but everything has improved. Through all of this I have stuck by him and supported him. Back in December he started feeling depressed, though he didn’t show it to me, and I only found out in April. (we live in different cities so I don’t see him often enough to gauge his moods) However, he had confided in a few people in his building that he has been feeling depressed and is afraid of losing me. (he lives in an apartment building designed for people with emotional problems) It wasn’t really a confiding, more like he blurted it out. There was one woman there who told him he won’t lose me and to get over it, which was strange because she suffers from a form of depression as well. After that, this woman has called him at odd times, texts him frequently and even showed up at a free exhibition that he was at with his daughter! He has told her this constant calling and texting makes me uncomfortable, and she stopped for a while, but continues. I have blocked her texting (we share an account), but she still calls to rant about things that he has nothing to do with. He tells me he is definitely not interested, and a lot of the times he doesn’t even answer the phone. It seems to me like she feels he “owes” her since he talked to her about his problems, now she badgers him with hers. The last straw was when he was visiting me and she kept texting him. I can’t confront her when I go there, since it is against the rules and I would be banned. I don’t know what to do. I trust him, but not her. If we lived in the same city, it would be different, but living 70 miles away it makes it hard. Maybe if I were more of a presence she would get the hint. Due to finances, we can’t live in the same city yet.
I do know this will blow over eventually, but it causes stress because I ask him if she has contacted him. She is supposed to be moving soon to be closer to her son, so hopefully she will forget about FI and live her own life. He will also be moving soon, and he said he won’t give her his new address because she would probably try to stop by.
Sorry this was so long! I needed to rant about this since it has been in my craw! Other than confronting her, I don’t know what else I can do. Do I let it blow over or what? I know he needs to have friends, but she is ridiculous.