- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
I don’t think I’m officially on the list yet?
SO and I have been together for 3 and a half years, and we’re mid 20’s. Several months ago we both went from crashing-with-family-and-friends poor to getting good new jobs that allow us to both put money into our loans AND save some AND not eat ramen every night. It’s not 100% sturdy forever type of job, but it’s good and we should be able to maintain for some time.
We’ve talked about getting married a little, he’s said he wants to be with me forever.
The point: In 5 weeks we’re going on our first real vacation ever, to the country where we met. (We both studied abroad and met in Japan.) It’s kind of a huge deal for both of us. I’ve been dropping hints once in awhile, that I’d like to get engaged. We even looked at a few rings online together, sorta — I showed him a few things I liked and he seemed intrigued and asked for a link to the page. The other night I made a vague reference to being excited about vacation romance, and he acted slightly awkward.
He bought himself/us a $700 television in March… maybe his usually superfrugal self is opening up to such things?
I can’t bring myself to think he’ll actually propose on vacation, but it’s really hard for me right now because I really WANT him to!!! It would be so perfect, and more chances like this aren’t going to come around much. Due to work schedules we can’t get time off for any reason (it’s honestly hard to even get sick leave) except a couple weeks in August and January, so it would be ideal if he proposed now, allowing us to get married next summer. Everything would line up, and for the first time, it’s actually possible.
Because of all that… someone stop me thinking about it, please! I just want to enjoy our trip and not be disappointed if it doesn’t happen but I don’t know if I can help it.
Edited to add: Technically our jobs provide us each with an apartment, but I stay at his most of the time (as we lived together before this.) I’m considering if he doesn’t propose by a mental (non spoken) deadline, I might start spending more time at my own place… not out of anger or anything, just to focus more on me. Good idea/bad idea?