Anxious past brides, advice needed

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

HC_IC721:  I didn’t take anything…I got about 3 hours sleep. Adrenaline truly kept me going until about 11pm that night(way past my usual 9pm bedtime!) and I just crashed. Sorry no advice for you!

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 1 month ago by  alysee.
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

You may want to try some melatoni, you can get it anywhere they sell vitamins pretty much.  It’s natural & effective.  I’d suggest doing a trial run to see how it works for you.

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - The Boatshed Restaurant

I’ve just started to experience insomnia, as a result of changing a medication. This week I saw my GP and discussed ways to help. We decided on a combination of relaxation technique and a hormone called melatonin.

The relaxation bit includes counting to ten, without disruption. Letting thoughts come and go, but making sure you count to ten. The idea is that if you do this a number of times a day, your body learns to relax when you start to count. You can also contract and relax muscles from head to toe, which gives a sense of relaxation and heaviness. (So squeeze your eyes shut and then relax, smile and relax, clench your jaw and relax etc…all the way to your toes).

Melatonin is a natural hormone that you can take and is a non-addictive way to help you off to sleep. You take a tablet about 2 hours before you want to sleep and it helps your normal circadian rhythm set in. See a doctor to get a script (that’s how you do it in Australia anyway)…there are also natural remedies, but they’re not as effective.

I’ve actually found the counting and relaxation technique has made sleeping a lot easier…I haven’t used the melatonin at all yet (which is great!).

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I meant to say melatonin.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

My husband and I both tried melatonin and had very different results. I fell asleep after 45 minutes but was wide awake after 3 hours, almost to the minute, and couldn’t get back to sleep. This happened each of the four times I tried melatonin. My husband slept so soundly that he pissed the couch both times he tried it.

 

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - The Boatshed Restaurant

TheMrsTulip:  Hope I never pee unexpectedly if I end up taking some hehe! Pre-sleep loo break required!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I was able to sleep fine the night before.   I was with my Bridesmaids and we talked and laughed and drank wine until we all crashed.  I honestly can’t wait to do it all over again.   I am trying to convice my awesome husband to do a vow renewal for our 5th anniversary 🙂

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I have an anxiety disorder and sometimes have massive panic attacks that cause me to become physically ill,  so I was worried about the wedding. I am also not a good sleeper the night before a big event. I managed to sleep a solid eight hours the night before my wedding,  but it’s because I’d totally exhausted myself! The Thursday night/Friday morning I only slept about 3 hours because I had some DIY projects that had to get done, and then I had to get up early to set up the hall, get my nails done, pick up food, etc. I was on my feet all day, and basically running on caffeine, so by the time our rehersal dinner was over and my MOH and I had had a last single girl beer together I was ready to crash. I felt great on my wedding day, I had zero anxiety, and wasn’t tired until about 1 AM when we shut the hall down. 

I’m not sure I’d recommend my method because everyone is different, and if you were exhausted and then couldn’t sleep because of anxiety it would be awful! But exhausting myself by not sleeping much the night before and having a busy day works for me when I know I need to get a good night’s sleep.

Post # 11
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2014

 I didn’t sleep much – it was the adrenaline that kept me going until 1am! I just accepted the fact that I wasn’t going to sleep much. I’ve heard getting a good night of sleep 2 days before is actually the key, so if you can sleep well leading up to the big night, that may help.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

HC_IC721:  I’m not married yet, but I’ve struggled with not being able to sleep and anxiety and I’ve tried a few things. Melatonin- can be awesome for some people, as PPs said. It would help me fall asleep, but I’d wake up in the night wide awake. It also gave me horrible dreams which can set the mood for the whole next day, so definitely test it out first. Xanax- this one worked for me. I have it for panic attacks, but one before bed would put me to sleep nicely. I also used to put a boring show on netflix and just watch until I fell asleep. Hope you find something that works!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

HC_IC721:  i have pretty severe anxiety (i have to take xanax just to go to walmart) and also have some pretty bad sleep issues, and in the past i’ve been the same as you – unable to sleep the night before anything big or exciting or important, even the night before Christmas and vacations still gets me!…i’ve done melatonin but after a while it stopped working. then i was taking xanax at night (per my dr’s instruction) to help me sleep when i was becoming a bit overwhelmed leading up to the wedding…and then my dr eventually put me on ambien. it works magic. i took it the month leading up to my wedding and am actually now working through teaching myself how to relax through meditation at night to get to sleep so that i can put down aids completely!

the night before our wedding i had 3 of my BMs sleep over with me in a cabin and we had so much fun…went to bed around 1 and had to be up at 7 to start hair/make up…i didn’t even have to take my meds because i was so exhausted and had a nice wine buzz…went right to sleep.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Sorry OP, I won’t be much help! I had all my BMs stay over and we slept around 1 am and I got up at 4 am to shower and start getting ready!

The only time exhaustion hit was when we got home after the reception at close to 4 am. I had been up for 24 hrs at that point with 3 hours of sleep the night before. But the whole day I was so excited and happy, I didn’t even think that I was tired at all!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013 - Garden

I stayed on my own in a hotel suite the night before. Had a big bubble bath, drank 2 glasses of champagne, ate some chocolates, painted my nails and then the champagne put me to sleep. I actually slept really well the night before and I think it was because I made myself relax so much that day.

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