Any 30's brides feel like they are marrying a manchild?

posted 3 years ago in 30 Something
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

No, though mine is 4 years older than me. But late 20s (I assume that’s his age) is old enough to be a fairly mature adult… I’ve known several guys who were what I’d consider mature by then, while I know a guy (confirmed bachelor) in his 60s who is quite immature in a lot of ways (I’m sure your guy is not as immature as he is!). I think a lot of people just get stuck at a certain point of maturity and may not improve further than that even as middle-aged and elderly people. (I believe change is always possible at any age, but it takes effort and many people just don’t seem to be that motivated.)

What do you mean by manchild? What does he do?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@ShabbyChicBee:  Ahh nope…can’t say I feel that way about my FI. He is 7 years older than me and we are both on the same wavelength with life.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@ShabbyChicBee:  It depends on what you mean by manchild. 🙂 I’m 30 and will be marrying my 33 year old FI a little over a week (!!!). He’s very responsible job-wise, financially (way more so than me – he’s definitely going to be the money manager in our marriage), and educationally (got his MBA immediately after undergrad). However, he buys knick-knacks (gnomes, magnets, etc.) and drinks a lot with his friends. Oh, and he is leaving work early today to… make it in time for the Charlie Brown Halloween Special (no, he’s not 5, lol).

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

No.. I’m 33 and FI is 7 years younger than me, and I think he’s more together than I am. He puts our relationship first always. I’ts one of the things that attracted me to him (and made me disregard the 7 year age difference!)

We can both be pretty silly, but I don’t think that’s what you’re asking about.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Waldorf Astoria, Chicago

@ShabbyChicBee:  HAHAHA!!  Your title cracked me up.  I have to say yes, sometimes!  He’s 5 years older then me, I just turned 30 this past summer.  He is very mature in someways, dedicated to his job, ready to get married and start a family.  But he is so lazy at home.  I have to clean up after him, cook for him (he helps, but sometimes I’d rather just do it myself…), he’s so messy.  Maybe b/c he’s the youngest and always had someone take care of him…but he is lazy to the extreme!!!  Like can you take my socks off, or can you grab the remote that is 2 inches away from my reach.  He’d rather pay to have a maid in then to sweep the floor, not that I’m complaining about that b/c then I don’t have to do it either, but it’s not fun cleaning up after someone all the time…but he does support me and I will be able to be a stay at home mom once we have kids, so I don’t mind being the maid too, lol!! 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Nope.  He’s 3 years older than I am.  We’re mostly on the same wavelength.  We both have our strengths and weaknesses.  We both can be very silly and goofy at home.  He’s aces in an emergency.  

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

That’s why I left my ex … Foot in Mouth He was a good guy but still a teenager on many aspects. In the end of our relationship I often felt as if I had become more like a ”mother” figure than a lover to my ex (and not wanting to have children, you can imagine the irony of embracing the mother’s role in the relationship).

My FI is 9 years older than me, and he is a man, not a teenager or a manchild. That’s what seduced me right from the start. It doesn’t mean we can’t goodf around and be totally immature at home (watching bad movies and laughing because someone farted), but overall I feel that we are now on the same level when it comes to shared responsabilities in our life and how serious and ambitious we are in the projects we want to accomplish. We’re a team, and it never feels like there is kind of an adult/child inequality anymore. 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

My fiancé is definitely a man child he’s held steady good paying job for over 10 years he takes care of the kids he takes care of me but there are some days when I feel like I live in a house with three children instead of two he makes good money but he makes horrible video game gym shoe latest jacket decisions and it really irks me sometime that he does that but then he’s the first to get the motor or the breaks fixed

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