(Closed) Any Advice on Chinese Wedding Traditions?

posted 5 years ago in Intercultural
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

Not being very traditional myself, I think as long as you don’t use the cream or silver to print the double happiness, it should be okay — in Chinese culture, white is associated with death/funerals.  Maybe use it in the blush somehow, as it is basically a shade of red?  You could try looking into the tea ceremony, but honestly that is mostly for immediate family (parents, aunts and uncles), and if your FMIL is the only one from the culture it may be unnecessary.  The only other thing I’ve heard of is choosing a “lucky” day, but I think it’s too late for that 😉

Maybe your FMIL hasn’t given you a lot of opinions because she is not very traditional and won’t expect you do incorporate the culture??  My parents basically had a courthouse wedding, and when I asked my mom what traditions there were she was like “oh, I don’t know” and that was that LoL.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Based on the feedback you got, I wouldn’t sweat it too much.  Seems like they aren’t too interested.

That said, when I was incorporating Chinese traditions into the wedding, we used a lot of red, had double happiness favors and a cake topper, and handed out red envelopes of “lucky money” to the guests.  We also had a tea ceremony, but like the other poster said, if it’s just her, then it’s probably not necessary.   I also wore a red Chinese wedding dress for part of the day, and had a red flower in my hair.  They really appreciated the Chinese touches. 

 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@MissCrinoline:  I agree with the silver/cream thing. Too close to being white for traditional Chinese to not think of funeral. Have you thought about wearing a qipao/cheongsam at your reception or for rehearsal dinner? That might be a nice shout out to the family without going completely overboard Chinese

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Thing is…alot of the chinese wedding traditions take place before the wedding itself. Engagement, exchange of roast pig etc and phoenix candles, exchange of gold jewellery, combing of the hair, lucky boys etc.

Yeah..definitely go with the blush, not silver for the double happiness words.

During my wedding I put all the Chinese guests at the table numbered 8, they appreciated it. you may want to put your MIL at a number 8 table.

I also scattered alot of red packets around – I actually had a lion dance..which was not very traditional wedding stuff. the main traditional stuff such as tea ceremony im waiting till I return to the country.

The thing is if it is just your MIL who is Chinese it may be more difficult to incorporate things that let everyone be comfortable.  For example, the day of the wedding there’s something called the door games..where the groom goes and collect his bride. the bridemaids will prank the groomsmen and the groom and make them do alot of challenges before the groom gets his bride sitting on the bed in the bedroom..its very chinese and really fun, but if you want to only see the groom as you walk down the aisle not relevant.

some pics of door games:

http://sweetchicevents.com/blog/chin-stephen-chinese-wedding-traditions/

You may just stick a bunch of double happiness signs around and wear a cheongsam as second dress a nod to the culture. that should be enough.

 

 

Post # 9
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Helper bee

Check out wedding door games on YouTube…. That’s a really cool traditionchinese that’ve you thought of lion dancers?

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

My FMIL wouldn’t say much about it either when I asked her about incorporating Chinese tradition but when I spoke to my FI about it and after prodding her further, it seems that there isn’t really a lot I can incorporate during the wedding. The only things she really wants is for us to go and tell her late mother at a temple before we get married and afterwards to visit and have celebrations with her side of the family. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I don’t think I would use the double happiness if you weren’t printing it in red or gold.  A tea ceremony would be a nice thing to do. 

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