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I am!!! My FI and I just got married prior to having our ceremony because of all the semantics with the military. FI didn't enlist so unfortunately I wouldn't be able to offer any advice on the time frame between physical and tech school BUT FI did so a lot of training his first year and they put them up in hotels.. I went with him a lot and there were no problems. (but we are still LDR). The Air Force has been really accomodating with FI and myself. .there have been times I needed FI to come here on short notice etc and his bosses have been really cool about it. I know one of FI's friend's wedding was during training and they let him go to the wedding for a couple days and come back to finish. He was up front from the beginning about the wedding tho. Sorry I couldn't help more!
Not air force but marines he went through boot camp and training already so we got a lot of stuff done in that time I would just ask questions when we were able to talk . The entire time Im planning my fi will be in Afghanistan but I am just going to send care packages and get his opinion on things through that:)
I'm a Navy wife and we decided to move our wedding up so we were married before DH left and I am SO SO glad we did!!! I have seen so many girls try to plan weddings around the military, which, hey, it happens, but if you have the chance to avoid it, DO!
Being a wife going into basic, I felt like people listened to my concerns and questions. People on base sometimes can't (or won't) talk to you if you're a fiancee or girlfriend. Also, as a fiancee, you won't be his next of kin, so all his mail or anything will go to his parents house. Plus, you can't get a dependent ID nor will he be paid as much as when you're married.
So, definitely plan a beautiful winter wedding and congratulations!! Welcome to the wonderful, crazy world of being a milspouse!! :)
Oh, I should also say, that DH and I are currently LDR because of his school. His school is also 6 months long, so I could have moved and since we're married, we could have been able to move me at the Navy's expense.
But, I chose to stay and work because with the nature of DH's school (which is crazy intense), I wouldn't have seen him as much, wouldn't have had a job, and I would have moved to a new area only to move a few months later. Plus, I have a teaching contract so I now will have a year of experience to take with me when I move. So, it worked out. Not ideal by any means, but his school is close enough that we can see each other easily, so we figured we should take advantage of that.
Thanks for the advice so far everyone! We are still deciding on what we are going to do. A friend of mine, who is an ordained minister, is to get "married" and have a ceremony and reception after Fi gets done with basic training and is in tech school. I've heard its easier for airmen to take a few days leave during tech school than BT. That way I'm still his wife and we're both taken care of while he's gone.
*sigh* I don't know. Most of my family live in California and Utah and they have never had much success with traveling up here to Washington, lol.
We have a lot to think about in the upcoming weeks! Thank you all for the advice so far! :)
I'm an AF bride-to-be...sort of. My fiance is enlisted AF but he will actually separate shortly after we get married. I've been within since before he enlisted though.
First of all, even though tech school is generally shorter than 6 months, the linguist tech school is one of the longest. The linguist tech school can be anywhere from 1-2 years long, depending on the language. I'm pretty sure the cryptolinguist AFSC tech school is 2 years long.
My fiance got a while off at Christmas, but it was because of the timing. He did basic from mid-August to late September, and his tech school was 6 weeks long - so he finished it in late November. He came to base in early December, and he got a week off for Christmas.
Unless you have some aversion to this, can you have a legal marriage ceremony and then plan a big wedding for later? That way, you'll have the paperwork finished and you can legally move around with him and such. I never had such problems just being a fiance, partially because FH made it clear to his supervisors and colleagues that we were serious (he calls me "the Mrs.") and partially because they're all nice and they've seen me support him at things. The only annoying thing is that, obviously, I can't get on base to wait for him in the terminal when he returns from deployments, but that doesn't bother us too much. I have my health insurance and I work 2 hours away from the base, so normally not being able to get on there doesn't bother me much.
Having the civil ceremony privately may be the best idea, then have a bigger wedding later.
What I can tell you (I'm planning on going into the AF reserves, and training is just like the active AF) is that basic training begins every Tuesday, and they will purposely schedule his BT to back up to tech school (so he'll go right from one to the other), so you probably won't have time for him to come back and get married if you were planning on doing it in between.
Definitely have it before! I'm a Navy wife so it is a bit different but it is horrible to try to plan anything with the military involved! Especially that first year when they are doing basic and all their schools and trainings.
Plus if you are married you will be sure to get on his orders, and he will immediately begin getting BAH which, in the area we live, is an automatic $1500 a month. If you'd rather have a civil ceremony now and plan a huge wedding in a year or two, you could do that.. otherwise 3 months is enough time to plan a shotgun wedding! We had the civil ceremony a year ago today (yayy! =]) and are having our "big ceremony" in March. He's been in for 3 years already though.
Yeah, we are leaning more towards a civil ceremony and then planning a reception later down the road.
Here's a question: If we were to do that, should we keep the ceremony portion even though we're already married? I'm just not sure if people would feel like attending without an actual ceremony. If we did keep the ceremony, should we tell people we're already married?
I guess we could always elope...I'm not sure how our families would feel about that though. It probably wouldn't make them very happy.
Ugh. Stress level...rising...
I'm an Air Force wife. My husband is an EOD tech, which is another special field with a long school (about a year). He had a grace period between school and being able to be deployed overseas, so we were able to plan our wedding in that time. Being sent to his first base and a deployment are 2 different things. DH was already stationed at his first base when we got married. Ask the recruiter if there is a training period between school and a deployment, as there often is in a highly specialized field.
I'm pretty sure the tech school for a linguist is like a year to a year and a half, isn't it? Crypto-linguist was the other job DH looked into and that was what they told us, so him not being gone for 6 months shouldn't really be an issue. You should be able to move with him. Keep in mind that they will only let you move with him if you are considered his spouse before he gets the orders to tech school. If you get married after, you move on your own dime.
I will say that I spent the first year and a half of DH's enlistment as a non-wife and the last year as a wife and the amount of support and information from the USAF is a drastic difference. If that is a concern, you might want to do the JOP.
Feel free to PM me, if you want. I've been through this whole process and my DH is in a very demanding frield as well. My PM box is open if you haev any questions.
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Hey all, I was wondering if I might be able to get some adivce?
So, here's the deal: FI is about to sign up for the Air Force. He just took his ASVAB (scored a 93) and is about 85% sure he wants to try for the Linguist position. He takes his physical sometime next week and his recruiter said that he will probably get sent to basic in February or March...
With that being said, I'm finding it a little tough to actually plan a wedding. I was hoping to maybe have a September wedding of next year, but from what I'm reading on the web and from what his recruiter has been saying, he won't really have any time in between basic, to technical school, to actually getting deployed to a base...which makes me wonder if we should just try to have a winter wedding in either December or January...which isn't really what I wanted, but hey, sacrafices have to be made.
Not to mention, I can't move down to his technical school with him unless he is guaranteed to be gone for 6 months (most tech schools don't last that long). On another note, if we decide to wait and get married, I would have to move there at my own expense if either a.) I'm not legally his wife and/or b.) he won't be in tech school for 6 months or more.
Mainly, I was wondering to see if anyone has had a similar experience, and if so, what you did and how you coped? I'm also just wondering if it would be best for everyone and beneficial for FI and I to either wait it out or try and plan the wedding before he leaves for basic.
Thanks for reading, any advice or suggestions anyone has would be wonderful :)