(Closed) Any && All my bees….

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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11760 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I haven’t had closure on 1 semi serious relationship. If I ran into him again some day I’d simply ask him to tell me the truth about whether or not he is gay!  I have no hard feelings towards him, if it wasn’t for him wanting a “break” I never would have met FI!

Post # 5
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1692 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I didn’t have closure in one ending…it was a messy situation where he was in a horrible relationship with someone who refused him sex and any real love. Iknow this because we were very close friends who apparently fell for each other.  One night he called me, told me he wanted to be with me and he was done trying tomake something work that didn’t exist. (back story – he had cancer and she went through a lot with him so he felt he owed her for that no matter how she treated him) the next day he didn’t call, after all the friendship and emotional things we’d beenthrough together.  I finally got ahold of him and he told me he’d decided he needed to stay. I told him we couldn’t be friends, I couldn’t go back, I loved him despite knowing I could one day lose him to cancer anyways. Two months later she left him for someone else. I like to think I’m not the one who lost out there. I am 1000000000000% happy with my FI but there were a few times I ran into him and my heart stopped for a second. Not because I wished we were together instead but I think because there was no real end to it. Unfortunately not 5 yrs later, I guess there is some closure. Turns out he got married to a wonderful girl, but lost his battle last year.  I don’t knowwhat it is that always got me worked up, I wouldn’t have taken him back or traded in my FI, but something about never getting closure with him really effed me up.

Post # 6
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1271 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My exes are about 12 or 13 years behind me. I’m not quite sure what closure is, really, but I guess it’s when a person no longer second guesses the relationship ending?

Post # 7
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434 posts
Helper bee

I didnt have closure once it wasnt a serious relationship but it kinda dragged on with so many ifs and buts and we never quite got together and in the end he just stopped talking to me and never gave me a reason why it couldnt work out, i dont know what id do if i bumped into him i hope i never do tbh ive bumped into a few exs and its been quite nice to see how they are doing 🙂 but this person i think it would be too awkard. I just hope hes as happy as i am and having a lovely life.

Post # 8
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4430 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@FutureMuniz:  i dident get closer with one relationship and lately…. its funny how you posted this ive been feeling bad about it. i mean we have both moved on with our lives but when we broke up he asked me for forgiveness ( he did me wrong) i told him to wait for God to give him a sign. i feel bad now its been bothering me. wish i would have ended thing diffrently but i was hurt and for good reason. he really betrayed me badly. and i was way past scorned i refused to answer the phone for months that he called and i never spoke to him after that. we were together for 4 1/2 years.

Post # 9
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808 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My very first boy friend. I dated him for 2 years and we both ended up moving to different towns (we didn’t have mobiles back then lol) and we just lost contact (I moved very suddenly)….I didn’t see him again for over 13 years. 

We bumped into eachother at the hospital I was having my baby at….His girlfriend was having a baby the same time as me. We had our first children only hours apart.

Afterwards I ended up having  long chat with him as to where we continued our lives and how we ended up where we were right then in time….It was so surreal.

We never saw eachother again after that day 🙂

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