- 5 years ago
Okay, okay I’ll confess I’m a waiting bee 😉
But if SO isn’t blatantly leading me on, I’ll hopefully be engaged in the next few months. I will also be graduating with my bachelor’s degree in 10-11 weeks. I’ve just recently started my job search.
I do have a part time job, and could probably still get 20-30 hours a week after I graduate if my search takes a long time. My parents (who are expecting the engagement/wedding and have talked openly with us about it) also plan to help with the costs.
We don’t want a giant lavish affair, so that paired with the fact that my parents have expressed a desire to contribute eases my fears of affording the wedding.
I don’t live in a super small town, and my degree doesn’t really box me in. Despite this, I know that the economy I’m graduating in is far from the one my parents graduated in. I have heard of graduates taking 6 months-1 year+ to start their careers. My fear is that I will set a date, start planning for it, and I won’t find a job until so far down the line that I won’t be eligible to take the 6-7 days off for the set-up/rehearsal and honeymoon.
For SO & I, the honeymoon will be a really important part of our wedding. We love to travel, but he is 30, will probably be 31 when we get married, and wants to start our family soon after. So this will be a big one, and his dream vacation (we’re taking my dream vacation right after I graduate). The date will actually be dependent on the weather where we’re honeymooning rather than the weather where we’re getting married! lol (why not? it’ll be an indoor ceremony & reception anyway!)
Basically, I would REALLY REALLY REALLY like to set a date for April 12th, 2014, which is on the eve of our 4 year anniversary, and just a couple weeks shy of being a full year after I graduate. That date has significance for us and coincides with a “good weather time” for our ideal honeymoon destination. I just feel hesitant to do this for the reasons mentioned above.
Also, if we choose to wait on setting a date until AFTER I find a job, the same things I’ve listed above still scare me a little bit. I think I’ll get the “have you set a date?” question a million times, but if we follow this plan it could be months and months maybe even a year into our engagement that we actually can?!
Has anyone been in this situation? Or changed jobs after having set a wedding date? Are most employers understanding about previous plans, and would grant you 6-7 days off unpaid if you aren’t eligible for that much PTO yet?