Post # 1
I’m hoping someone can educate me a little today. Fiance is Jewish, I’m Catholic, and we were discussing interfaith elements to our wedding. He suggested breaking a glass at the end of the ceremony. I said that we had been very careful and intentional in all of our ceremony decisions so far in terms of what traditions we kept and what we didn’t, and that I wanted to know the meaning of the things we did on our wedding day.
Bees, it seems to me that breaking the glass has two meanings
1. We are sad that there is no third temple (but he’s not sad. and I’m not sad. So I’m confused)
2. We are remembering that we should be sad when we are happy. But I don’t want to be sad at my wedding, or for him to be, or to do something that says we should be!
Post # 3
You should go back and read about Mrs. Hermit Crabs wedding. It was so beautiful and she explains alot of tradions.
Post # 5
I dunno about “be sad when we are happy”, but one of the explanations our rabbi talked about is that it symbolizes that our world is imperfect. Judaism has a major focus on “tikkun olam” or healing the world, so the broken glass symbolizes that even while we celebrate our personal joy at the wedding, we are reminded that there is much left to do to heal the world and to let our marriage propel us toward being a part of that process together. I thought it was a beautiful meaning to take out of the tradition.
In a Jewish wedding book that I read, it says that no one really knows the original meaning of the tradition. It’s something that has been passed down so long that many alternative meanings have sprung up around it. So you can make what you want of it while continuing a tradition many centuries old!
Post # 6
I’m Catholic and Darling Husband is Jewish, and we did breaking of the glass. I read that there is no one universal meaning – all of the meanings PP have mentioned are possibilities. Our officiant said:
We conclude this ceremony with the breaking of the glass. It is a joyous ceremony. The fragility of the glass suggests the frailty of human relationships. The glass is broken to protect this marriage with the implied prayer…
May your bond of love be as difficult to break as it would be to put together the pieces of this glass.
Post # 7
@GirlWithARing: Yeah, our rabbi said something similar as well and I love that meaning too!
Post # 8
Our rabbi said in the ceremony as my husband broke the glass: “May your love last as long as it takes to put this glass back together.” Meaning since the glass could never be restored to its original state, our love would last forever. We had the broken glass made into a mezuzah that hangs in our bedroom doorway.