Post # 1
I imagine that any bride is supposed to be nervous on her wedding day,some are more others are less,my issue is that I have a really severe anxiety disorder,I don’t talk about it very often,people around me know about it but I don’t like to bring it up,maybe that’s why I’m creating this topic,I feel more at ease talking about it with people I don’t know.I’ve struggled with panic attacks ever since I was 16,I’m now 24 and I take medication whenever I’m having one,I eventually get better 2/3 minutes later but I decided that I don’t want to take any medication on my wedding day,these pills make me groggy,I end up looking like a zombie,completely alienated,that’s not how I want to be on my big day,I already have to take my daily medication for BPD and that’s already too much but the thought of having to walk down the aisle,having 500 guests looking at me,it’s really making me nervous and afraid of having a panic attack.Of course I’ve faced other social situations,specially since I’m working,with success,I just felt the need to get this off my chest and see if there are other bees around that are going through or went through the same situation.
Post # 3
@Ashleigh24: I totally feel you =(
I’ve gotten anxiety attacks since I was 13. I used to take medication, but I havent in a while. I’m absolutely scared of the walk down the aisle, and we’re only having about 70 guests! I’m even more nervous about saying my vows. Eep!
Post # 4
I am nervous too. But i think if i can dance in front of people i can do this. Just try and pretend no one is there or just look straight ahead and don’t look at people. I am doing traditional vows so i can just repeat whats said to me lol
Post # 5
I am totally nervous. I’m sure the mimosa in the morning will help ease the anxiety, but not all of it.
Post # 6
I totally understand, I feel the same way. I have opted to have both my mother and her husband walk me down the aisle.. a bride sandwich if you will. Hopefully that will make me feel better!
Post # 7
I was SO nervous! I woke up that morning, went for a run, and it was gone!
Post # 8
As best as you can just ignore everyone else and focus on the person you are there to marry 🙂 no one will think oddly of you if you stare at your fiance the entire walk down the aisle!
Post # 9
@Ashleigh24: YES. My view of a wedding has changed drastically in the last few years. I used to LOVE the spotlight and now I switched. The thought of walking down the aisle gives me some anxiety and first dance? Forget it. I’m trying to talk the FI out of having one all together. I also don’t want anyone to do toasts (from my side.) My mother has no clue who I turned into lol.
Some people just don’t like it. I think it’s actually nice. It’s nice when a bride isn’t MEEEEEEEE through every part of the wedding.
Post # 10
The thought that all eyes will be on me freaks me out,even if it were just 10 people,I’m praying a lot of people turn down the invitation but I’ll still have plenty of guests.This makes me really self conscious because it isn’t just normal anxiety,like any bride has,why do I have this thing?It really makes me hate myself and I’m so terrified of having a panic attack on the day of my wedding,maybe I’ll take only half of a pill just to keep me relaxed and to avoid feeling groggy but I already take antidepressants,I’m already used to them and I can function normally but when I mix them with my anxiety medication all I want to do is to sleep,the way I speak gets weird,it’s like I’m completely high.
Post # 11
Yes I was a total ball of anxiety plus it didn’t help that it was 100 degrees out and I was sweating my ballsagnas off. I have *never* sweated so much before ever. DH kept wiping me off and I know my hair was ruined and it heightened my anxiety thinking all my guests were looking at me and it was not what a bride is supposed to look like. Oh well, what could I do? So I just smiled through it. But I was FULL of anxiety even.more than usual at getting attention.
Just know this, the wedding day will FLY BY. ya it’s a whole day but after it was over and I wasn’t a bride anymore, I realized it only felt like I was in the spotlight for 5 minutes. Looking back, I kinda wish I could have been a bride (and yes, the center of attention) a bit longer so I could *actually* feel what if felt like instead of feeling like I was on some other planet. So, ya know, try not to stress, try to realize it will be only a fleeting few minutes of being uncomfortable, and try to enjoy it. If not, at least smile ur ass off and FAKE IT for the sake of ur photographs!
Post # 12
@Ashleigh24: I get nervous with all eyes on me, and hope my legs don’t start to shake or i want to passs out…I plan to have a couple glasses of champage before the ceremony probably 3 in an hour to an hour 1/2 so I will be a little looser and not focus on everything, ppl staring at me haha
Post # 13
@Ashleigh24: I barely remember the walk down the aisle except sort of tugging at my dad to get moving after the Rev told everyone to rise. I remember looking in the doorway and immediately getting choked up seeing my soon to be husband standing there (we even had a first look and did photos beforehand). I remember briefly thinking another Bee writing she wished she had smiled when she walked down the aisle for photos and tried to smile instead. I don’t remember seeing any of our guests, or even who was standing next to me (I asked my two MOH’s to figure out which one was going to stand where so I didn’t know what they decided). Honestly everything was a blur except standing there holding DH’s hands and listening to the words of the ceremony we had picked together. If you start to get nervous try and focus on what really matters, and let everything else fade into the background. 🙂
Post # 14
Yes. THIS. This is exactly how I feel.
I am a lawyer, and I’m used to talking in front of people I don’t know (and trying to convince those people that I know what I am talking about) but I am so anxious about being the center of attention at my wedding. To be honest, I am even more anxious about being the center of attention at the upcoming showers and bachelorette party. I have already alerted my BMs that I will require some white wine spritzers as social lubricant – I hate to be reliant on that, but small talk stresses me out so severely and I have the same concerns about people thinking “she isn’t acting like a bride! she doesn’t look like a bride!” that I am pretty much terrified about the whole process.
Best of luck to you and if you find a way to get over this PLEASE let me know!
Post # 15
I was totally nervous. I don’t like being the center of attention. I had to take Xanax while we were getting ready because my anxiety makes me completely nauseous. I was SHAKING the whole time I walked down the aisle and almost started crying right as I took my first steps down the aisle. But as soon as I started walking, I completely blocked out everything – I didn’t even notice the guests AT ALL (which actually makes me a bit sad; I wish I’d seen their faces!). It’ll be okay!
Post # 16
Now that you mention it…HE’LL YEA! I hadn’t really thought about it before now. I was just thinking today how nervous & uncomfortable I am feeling abt the shower. I through a baby shower today for my sister & she is just so good with people. .In front of them & talking to them. .& it made me nervous thinking how awkward it’s going to be to sit up in front of everyone & open gifts & all that stuff…and I didn’t even think about walking down the isle! Like what do you do? Do you look around at everyone? Do you actually make eye contact with people? Do you not look at anyone? Do you just stare at your groom the whole time? Ahhhhh!