Any bees ever had to pay entirely/help pay for their engagement ring?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Did you help pay for your engagement ring?
    Yes, I paid the whole price for it. : (17 votes)
    4 %
    Yes, I paid a small part. : (24 votes)
    6 %
    Yes, I paid a large part. : (16 votes)
    4 %
    Yes, we split the cost. : (62 votes)
    16 %
    No, my fiance wouldn't ever let me pay any of it, and I wouldn't want to. : (126 votes)
    32 %
    No, my fiance wouldn't ever let me pay any of it, but I would have if needed. : (110 votes)
    28 %
    No, but I offered. : (39 votes)
    10 %
    No, my fiance would probably want me to, but it's just not how things are done. : (5 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    895 posts
    Busy bee

    technically I paid half because we were already sharing finances, i don’t mind

    Post # 4
    8680 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    We have been combining finances for YEARS, so yeah, in a way I did help pay for mine.

    Post # 5
    2104 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    Well, I am not engaged yet, but I would totally help pay for my ring if I though my boyfriend would let Me. He is rather traditional though (but he’s ok with moissanite, or some other clear stone), and there is no way he’d let me pay. That’s part of why we aren’t engaged, because he wants to get me A ‘nice’ ring as he calls it. Even though I told him I would absolutley love the ring his mom offered (his grandmother’s ring). He says its to small… Which I am not sure why he thinks that. For me its the meaning of the ring, not the size. it seemed like he would be embarassed that he can’t get me a ‘better’ ring in his mind, at this point due to losing his job, even though i just want to marry him.

    Post # 6
    529 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    We haven’t had a his money/my money in years-so we established a budget and saved towards it. I guess since I make a tad more than him that more of the money that I earned went into it…but it definitely wasn’t a ‘ill pay half’ thing. We bought it together with our money. 

    Post # 7
    525 posts
    Busy bee

    I have offered to contribute to the ring find since I feel guilty about him spending so much. He has said absolutely no way. 

    Post # 8
    523 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    He didn’t let me help out for my initial ering and he’s not letting me help this time for the upgrade but I would.

    Post # 9
    6447 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We were planning on combining finances anyways so to me it didn’t matter who paid for it.

    Post # 10
    331 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - Excalibur

    I offered to help, he said no. We picked out an inexpensive engagement ring ($500) but he ended up buying a less than $100 ring. Since that wasn’t what we talked about, I bought my own ring kuz sadly, I was too embarrased to tell ppl we were engaged. I was told I’d have one for Vday but I’m pretty doubtful. I would have no problem paying half but for some reason my fiance would not have it. Because he lied, thats the only reason im pissed I had to pay.

    Post # 11
    1690 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We were already living together/sharing finances/parents, so yes of course I split the cost since it was “our” money. It didn’t even cross my mind that some people might think that was strange. 

    I pretty much said, “I’d like something blue and sparkly, we have about X amount of money to spend, but try not to spend all of it because we could really use some of the money to fix our dryer.” 

    He got me something blue and sparkly for half of the amount I said, and I gave him a high five 🙂

    Post # 12
    743 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014 - Our Backyard/Steakhouse

    @lenabee:  No, he chose a ring he could afford.  He is very old fashioned and would have been embarrassed to ask me to help pay for it.  If it wasn’t affordable, I would have told him not to get it. 


    Post # 14
    1475 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    He paid for the ering and will pay for my band as well.

    I see nothing wrong with going half on the ring, not sure if he would let me though.

    I also made it a point to choose a ring that was “reasonably” priced it also works to his advantage that I’m one of those that didn’t want him to spend too much on rings – I’m more of a lets save money girl.

    *IF* I had wanted a significantly more costly ring, I would have been willing to pay whatever portion was necessary to make that happen. If my choice had been over budget to him.

    Post # 15
    3202 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    He did technically pay for mine, but we went to all joint finances about a month after our engagement, so… haha, it didn’t really matter who paid.

    Post # 16
    110 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @lenabee:  we share finances, so while he paid for it, technically we both did really because it’s all ‘our’ money.

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