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I think my FI and I will eventually be in this situation. I'm close to becoming a CPA, and it's basically a given that I will be the one that makes the most money in the relationship. I don't really have any desire to be a long-term SAHM, but my fiance would love to work part time, with whatever he earns going to help pay for childcare when we're both working.
We've still got a few years before we plan to start having kids, but I think this is the way we're leaning. It's always nice to hear other people thinking the same way we are. I get a lot of strange looks when it's brought up, or people making me feel like I fail at being a woman because I don't want to quit my job!
@misspeanut: I feel that way at times. But I love that my FI wants to be a SAHD because it seems like you don't hear a lot about them. Hopefully it all works out :)
I think that's awesome... but no I cannot relate.
I'm the SAHM in our family. While my hubby is an awesome daddy, when our baby girl gets crazy fussy we're often reminded that mommy's (at least in our family) have more patience, and that's why we (at least in our family) stay at home with the baby :)
My brother is a stay at home dad. He loves it and he's totally patient and totally fine being home alone with the baby all day. Anyone can adjust to anything. My father was always very involved when we were growing up and my dad worked opposite shifts from my mom so he could be home with us. I don't think men get enough credit, they're just as capable of taking care of kids and babies all day as women!
@Moja Milosc: I didn't mean to say that men can't be SAHD's. I think some men would make awesome SAHD's, just like some women probably just weren't meant to be SAHM's. I think different things work for different families. It just happens that it works for us that I stay home with our baby.
I can't relate completely as DH and I have already decided that I will be the one to stay home, but my uncle stayed home to raise my two cousins, one female and one male, and they have the coolest memories of growing up with a SAHD. Honestly, I think he did a much better job than many SAHMs I have known. I think it's just different for every couple as to who stays home, so if you're comfortable with him doing it, go for it. :)
DH will eventually be a SAHD. After our son in born next month I plan to be out of work for a few weeks and head back part time somewhere around the 4 week mark (probably a few days here and there and then mornings to start). I'll be back full time at around 8 weeks and at that point DH will be home with the baby.
It works for us because he can work mostly from home, where I can't. This way allows us both to keep our jobs while our little fella is small. I work a mile from home and can run home if I'm needed and he can always stop in during the day.
I already know that I'm going miss him so much, I get teary just thinking about it. But I know that DH will bond with our baby and am so grateful that we're able to do it this way. I think it's just as important that baby has 'daddy-time', too.
My husband is a SAHD part time because he's a grad student too. Right now, he stays with Wombat until mid-morning/early afternoon when his mom comes over. He loves spending the time with her and, even though she's still really little, he explains what he's reading to her. It gives her a totally different look at life than I'd give to her, which I hope will help her be a really strong woman.
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So FI and I were talking and while we both want to continue on our career paths ater we have children, he was saying that he wouldn't mind being a SAHD! I think that is wonderful and would love for him to be able to stay at home with our children. Can anyone of you ladies relate to this? My brother is actually a SAHD to my nephew and he loves it...thoughts??
I should also add that I would love to stay home too but looks like I will have to work but if we could make it so one of us COULD maybe stay home...or even part time..how perfect would that be!