Post # 1
ANy bees who are still students in late twenties who cannot wait to graduate? How do you even budget a wedding with tight money, with help/no help from family? Do you go on a honeymoon, or post pone it after you have more money to afford something nice? Grad school is tough and wedding planning stress and ot being able to afford what you like is very challenging, how do you cope with that? I’m trying to get some ideas from bees who actually understand each other
Post # 3
I’m a grad students and can’t wait to graduate! Though I’m in my early 20s and still at the beginning of my program.
Unfortunately I’ve taken the stance of “we’ll get around to it when I’m done” for the wedding/marriage. To be fair, we also have a distance thing going on and he has a very ncie stable job back in his hometown, so I think it’s better for us to put it off and wait til I’m done. That way he can save money from his job and not have to worry about coming to me just yet, and I don’t have to stress about planning a wedding around exams/orals/defense. After I graduate, we’ll move to whatever city I end up getting a job (since I’ll only be able to work in a few places and his career is all over, so it’s easier for him to follow me) and get married.
So I guess we’re cheating, since even though we’re on a tight budget, we have literally years to save money. Which is what we’re doing- trying to save every penny possible, not just for the wedding, but for our future.
Post # 4
We had a very small wedding that we could afford on our own. No honeymoon, although we went on a family vacation with our parents and our daughter after the wedding (which they paid the majority of, as they had already planned a trip there at that time).
We were living in two different countries as both of us were in grad school, so we decided we wanted to just go ahead and get married and had zero desire to go into debt or waste a bunch of money on one day. We are pretty big proponents of living well within our means in general, and the wedding wasn’t different.
You have to come to grips with the money you can and want to spend on the wedding – for us, we have a pretty decent amount of savings, but we also don’t make a lot of money as grad students, so we wanted to have people we really cared about there and to treat them to a nice time, with really great food and good wine. That was our priority – think about what is on the top of your priority list. Do you have a large family and group of friends you really want to be there? Then look into lower cost reception ideas, like a brunch/lunch wedding, or a cake and punch afternoon wedding, or a late evening hors d’oeuvres wedding. Do you just really want a honeymoon and not mind if others come? Then think about eloping or having a small destination wedding. Think about what matters to you, and how much money you can put forward from your savings, and how much you and your fiance can save per month.