Any bees just marry at the court house?

posted 3 years ago in Elopement
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

I wanted to elope to the courthouse but my husband vetoed it.  The main courthouse here in Orlando actually has a nice chapel for weddings and it only costs $30 to use it.  Right now the wedding arch in the chapel is decorated with huge white handmade flowers.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN

Totalkaos1983:  I wanted a courthouse wedding as well but my FI, like the previous poster, absolutely says no. However, I do know that one of the courthouses here in SC actually has a historic home behind it that they will allow use of for like $100.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

That is the plan for us in September. People aren’t exactly thrilled about it, but it makes the most sense. We still plan on dressing up (though not in an actual wedding dress or tux), spending the day together, having a nice dinner, treating ourselves to whatever floats our boat that day, spending the night in a nice (4 or 5 star) hotel, and having cake and food back home with family. Instead of our local courthouse, we will probably be going on an overnight trip to a nearby city. The courthouse there is old and pretty and has a package with some photos.

I think it’s important to put in some traditional elements that are important to you when going this route. We’ll still have a wedding cake when we get home, I’ll buy a new dress for the occasion, we’ll get a honeymoon package at the hotel with rose petals and champagne, write “Just Married” on the car, etc. And of course we’ll have our at-home “reception” with the people we love.

 

 

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Totalkaos1983:  We’re going to the courthouse (with only a couple of family members), and then a big reception afterward at an American Legion. My FI and I are both in recovery too 🙂

Post # 8
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2013

My husband and I ended up doing a Courthouse wedding. Nothing fancy, just some close friends, the rings, and us. We couldn’t afford any sort of wedding, (I lost my job 3-4 months before our set wedding date), and we want to do a vow renewal in Maui,HI. We decided to just pay off old debt, and start getting our finainces in order first before spending money on a wedding/vow renewal. We were both thinking, why pay for one day, when we can pay for something that will last for many years to come (like a vehicle).

Family wasn’t too thrilled about this idea but understood where we were coming from and liked the idea of having more time to save up to be there for a celebration later(vow renewal). My family is closer to use and the hubby’s familly is on the other side of the US! So, instead of having only one side of the family there, we want to have as many join us as possible. And we will be planning on doing our Vow Renewal in 2020 on Maui,HI. So that way everyone who wants to go has time to save up for a mini vacation and can join us there!

I wish I could have had the nice wedding, but looking back, I’m glad that we didn’t. Due to the economy we are in, we have a poor job market, and want to go to school, move, and save up for a house along with the Vow Renewal. Once we save up enough and can pay out of pocket for the celebration than going into debt more, makes me feel way better about our decision.

 

The best advice I can give you is: decide with you and your fiance. This is about the two of yours’ future, financially. Decide if you two would like a court house, a small backyard wedding, or in a park. Do what you can afford, don’t start out your married life in debt because of one day’s celebrations. If you have family that have contributed to the wedding funds, or you have spend some, also include them with what you and your FH would like to do. See if you can get refunds if you have already paid for some things with money, if you decided to do the court house. Really step back and take a look at your job security/market, what will you need in the near future(vehicles/possibly a down payment on a house), you can always do a vow renewal later when you can afford it!

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

Totalkaos1983:  It was so easy. No stressing over a bridal party or timeline. We had a 10 day engagement period, which we enjoyed peacefully instead of chasing down vendors for a year. We did have a big family celebration a couple of months later so everyone could come to partake in our joy without having to sit through a boring ceremony. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We had a small informal courthouse wedding and then 2 banquets months later to celebrate with family and friends. I think that’s how normally non religious Asians tend to do it though. That’s how all my cousins did it too.

Do whatever you want. I personally love the courthouse wedding because it was just us, no frills needed.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Cape May

I’m glad you posted this. We are literally about to pull the plug on our entire wedding and just go to the courthouse. It just makes more sense and financially the wedding now costs more than we have to spend on it. 

Post # 13
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Totalkaos1983:  I felt like I was cheated out of a nice wedding, but afterwords I was happy that we didn’t go with a wedding ceremony and reception because we really couldn’t afford it! But everyone is different, you could do a court house and then a celebration dinner or reception with close family and friends. Make sure you talk to your Fiance on how you feel! Don’t hold back anything from your future husband!

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Totalkaos1983:  I did the first time around.  I think we were engaged for 3 days technically (called them on a Tuesday to get marrid on Thursday).  My BF at the time needed my health insurance to get an emergency surgery to save his life pretty much.  What a pickle to be in!  We even tried writing letters to insurance companies to downplay his condition and no one would accept him but he could get on mine (within a 60 day window of COBRA ending).  We were married with a week to spare in that time frame.  Eeesh!

Anyways, I did regret that very munch and felt very slighted!  Why?  (Well other than he was a douche.)  We did not wear special clothes.  We did not have a photographer (the only photo was the last photo on a disposable camera and it had a big red streak through it).  We were too poor to take even our 2 witnesses to lunch but we did and put it on a CC.  We even went back to work when it was all done.  We had no rings.  So blah!!!  But most of all that guy did not want to help me in making it special in any way which irked me the most. 

I think courthouse weddings could be very special if you add some elements to them!  Here are some darling ones:

http://ruffledblog.com/page/2/?post_type=post&s=courthouse

 

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