Hi there, I’m getting married in Mexico next week, so I understand your pain. There are always going to be people that give you grief over having a DW, and you really just have to sit down and go over what your priorities are. So many people told us that “no one is going to go” and guess what… we are having 88 people travel all the way to Mexico! We did not force anyone into this decision, they did it because they wanted to, and we are thrilled. No matter what you can’t please everyone (regardless of DW or local wedding) and at the end of the day, this day really is about what makes you and your fiance the happiest.
I’ve posted this before, but these are some of the reasons a DW was the right decision for me:
-I have been to 3 out of country destination weddings before. Every single time the bride or groom told me that there had been drama amongst some of their family for choosing their location, people would tell them they were being selfish, etc. And you know what? EVERY SINGLE PERSON that came loved it! Once they were there, all those thoughts fell away and everyone left talking about what an amazing time they had. The destination weddings i have attended have been the most enjoyable because I have gotten to spend quality time with people i wouldn’t normally, and spend a lot of time with the couple. it has also made me travel to some really cool places that I wouldn’t normally go to.
-You are providing a natural weeding system, basically eliminating people who would only go if it was convenient, ensuring that everyone that does go is someone that cares a lot. I had a long list of obligatory invites that my mom would kill me if I didn’t invite. These are people that are were really a part of my life. By having a destination wedding, I was still able to invite them, my Mom was happy, but most of them are not coming and i don’t look like a bad guy. The plus side of this is that those unexpected people that are actually coming obviously care about me a whole lot more than I knew, and it will be amazing to get to spend real quality time with them.
-We are paying for most of the wedding ourselves. We are very greatful for the support we are receiving, but at the end of the day, we are paying for it ourselves and we need to do what makes us happiest.
-We are also on a pretty strict budget. Getting married in Mexico is allowing us to give our guests a lot more than we would have been able to provide if we got married in the U.S. While i know that it is not about giving them things, it makes me really happy to be able to have more than one event for the people that do come and to not worry about every single dollar like I would be if we were in the U.S.
-Most people were going to have to travel regardless. My fiance is from New York and 95% of his family lives there. I am from California and 95% of my family lives here. Our friends live all over the world. No matter what, over 50% of our guests were going to have to take a plane to get to our wedding. If they have to travel anyway, why not make it someplace incredible?
Just stick to your guns and do what makes you and your fiance the happiest. It will all work out in the end.