Post # 1
I’m feeling kindof confused and sad today because I’ve been shopping for my wedding dress and I can’t make a decision. I’ve found some I really like, but there’s not one that I’m like “this is it!” Part of that is because my mom is out of state and can’t be with me to shop. When I send her pics on the computer, she says “it’s really hard to tell by a picture.. which ones do you like?” Which is nice, but I don’t know if I’ll make the right choice.
I could shop with friends but I usually shop for clothes on my own and I don’t feel comfortable with a lot of opinions. I guess I’m kinda self-conscious and want to be able to choose on my own, but can’t. Anyone in a similar situation?
Edit: Thanks ladies. I’m feeling rather emotional today, one of those days. I showed my mom some pictures of a dress I like and she didn’t really have a reaction. It just makes me feel sad. I think I just wanted her to love it, instead of her real opinion, which is silly.
Post # 3
I did! I went shipping once with my mom & sister but they’re out of state so I knew I wouldn’t be choosing one there. I just went to get their opinions on the style that fit me best. But I ended up choosing my dress on my own (i was forced to since the shop didn’t allow photos and I don’t know many people where I live, we just moved a year ago)
If you haven’t found one you love, keep searching 🙂
Post # 4
I did! I looked at dresses online and found one at David’s that fit my budget that I thought would look good. I ordered it without consultation from anyone else and that was that!
Post # 5
@butterfliesandhoney: You are not alone! When I was doing my serious shopping, I shopped by myself, as our parents and bridal party live 7-18 hours away. I shop for clothes alone anyway – all the extra opinions aren’t always welcome by me, haha.
That said, I went three times. Once with my sister and dear friend and once with my mother and grandmother, so that the important people in my life could have the dress shopping experience they wanted. But it also allowed me to still make the final call.
I’m wondering if maybe a similar scenario may work well for you?
Post # 6
I had planned to just go with FI, as he is who I normally would take shopping. I dont really have a group of “girls”, and I definitely cannot think of any family I’d be comfortable including.
We found my dress on an unrelated shopping trip. I was in sweats and had barely managed to draw my eyebrows on that morning; so definitely nothing glamorous :-p
Post # 7
@butterfliesandhoney: I’m kind of in the same boat…I was going to go shopping by myself because mom and sis live so far away, and best friend lives two hours away. I got lucky one day when my bestie stopped in to have lunch with me and we went spur of the moment dress shopping. I never thought she would ever want to do that with me, but she did. She even cried. And we’re talking about a girl who doesn’t even really ever think about marriage and weddings.
Well, lucky me, I fell in love with a dress and don’t need to do further shopping. I didn’t purchase the dress because I wanted to really think about it first even though I loved it, so now I have to go back in alone. I’m ok with that because I had so much fun the first time and the ladies at the shop are waaaay cool and fun.
I went shoe shopping with my FI and my best guy friend, lol. I felt kind of lame but we made it into a fun out of town trip (only an hour away but it’s a bigger city than our small town).
I feel lame about shopping for lingerie because I don’t have anyone to go with me and I’ve never really owned lingerie before so I don’t know how to shop for it. Shoot, I might just stick with online shopping for that one!
Good luck, and remember, while you may feel alone (and go shopping alone) you aren’t really alone, you got us! Post pics of dresses you try on and we can try and help you!
Post # 8
@butterfliesandhoney: my parents live out of state, and I bought my dress after shopping by myself. For me, the key was having an awesome consultant and being on a mutha-f*cking mission. I just liked the idea of going and thinking only about what I wanted and how I felt.
Post # 9
I did! I did the vast majority of my shopping on my own. I was glad to do it that way. I could go when I had the time and not worry about wasting other people’s time. Also, my grandmother was paying for the dress and while I love her, we have very different tastes and I knew I didn’t want to have to hear her oppinion about every dress I tried on. When I had a few that I thought were good possibilities, I had my MOH come up and go shopping to get an honest oppinion from her. Then I picked my top 4 and invited my grandmother and aunt and stepmother over from brunch and then we went to look at my choices. They really didn’t give a whole lot of input, which was a bit annoying, but I think they just wanted me to pick what I liked. So I got my top choice! I never had a “this is it” moment. I never cried. I just picked the one that I liked best. For me that meant that it was comfy, first and foremost (make sure to try sitting, kneeling and dancing in your dress!). I loved my dress and never had a moment of dress regret. On wedding day it was absolutely right and everyone loved it. But in the end, it’s just a dress. It’s doesn’t need to be a cathartic experience.
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@butterfliesandhoney: I didn’t want to go to a bridal store if I could help it, so I ordered a bunch of different long white / cream dresses from various department stores. I tried them on at home, asked a couple friends, and polled my family with pictures (also out of town / state). So yeah, I know it can be hard!
You could post pictures here and we could help you decide!!
Post # 11
I was browsing online, saw one I liked on Jcrew, found it on Ebay and ordered it, got it in the mail, uncrumpled it and tried it on. and loved it lol. Shocked everyone as I can be a little high maintenance regarding my appearance but I love that my dress process was so simple and cheap.
Post # 12
I did it! I tried on dresses on a whim alone in NYC, and found one I liked- La Sposa Fanal, but I wasn’t sold on it. Later I tried on some dresses with my mom, and I felt kind of uncomfortable with the salon experience, so I looked online for similar dresses to Fanal. I ended up ordering La Sposa Disco preowned, which had everything I was looking for, and I got it half off! It fit like a dream, and I’ll need very few alterations!
If you want to shop alone, do it! It made me more comfortable with the experience!
Post # 13
Also, I think TV and movies make us think that buying/finding the dress is a life changing experience… and I knew I would have to lower my expectations, or else I’d be disappointed if everyone I know didn’t LOVE LOVE LOVE my dress. I like it, and that’s what matters. Your mom will think you look beautiful on your wedding day, no matter what you wear– so it’s important to pick a dress that YOU like!
Post # 14
I went shopping on my own and agree with
@Kwhoa: that TV shows have made it seem like you MUST have everyone there. I hate shopping with other people, I know my own opinion is the best. My mother loved my dress but basically everyone was out of state and I had had my eye on my dress for years and just wanted to wear it and confirm it. The dress that was the one was the dress that made me feel most like me and most happy. Focus on positive emotions!
Post # 15
Yep I did! My family is all spead out and no one realy lives close to me so the majority of my dress shopping was done alone. I would just email and text pics to my mom. When I found my dress it was just me…myself….and I!!!
Post # 16
@butterfliesandhoney: I hear you!
I spent about five months trying on well over 100 dresses only to find myself incredibly confused and no closer to finding THE dress. All of my shopping I had done with family and friends of various assortments. One day I decided I was going to go it alone and it just so happens I was able to relax and listen to what I wanted. I found my dress that day and while I did struggle with doubts it was absolutely the perfect dress for me.