Post # 1
I am thinking about taking on a part time job if my husband doesn’t get his promotion. I was going to stay home since we planned on TTC in 6 months. We figured it wasn’t worth it due to childcare costs. But if my husband doesn’t get this promotion (which will include a big raise, health insurance & retirement) then I think I need to get a part time job to save up for atleast two years before TTC.
Eeeeekkk two more years before TTC sounds like forever.
But anyways, so what is it like working different hours than your SO/FI/DH?
(& For anyone wondering why I am not working now my husband & I was TTC earlier this year but I had a MC & was trying to get my diabetes under control. Which is now, so working is no issue.)
My husband works night shift & get off on the weekends. I would be working during the day & during weekends.
EDIT: My husbands work week looks like this:
Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday 10PM-6AM Its full time. & He gets off every Saturday & some Fridays.
Post # 3
We do! He works during the day as a plumber and I work night shifts at a hospital (7p-7a) working every other weekend – he’s off every weekend unless he finds a side job.
It’s frustrating, but it’s something that is still fairly new to us. I’m sure as time goes on, we will adjust fine and will appreciate our time spent together even moreso.
My schedule looks like this though:
Monday, Tuesday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday, Thursday (repeat).
It looks like so much in one week because I only have two days off before going in for three straight nights. Because I work nights, Saturday and Sunday night are considered the new week so it evens itself out pay wise. It’d be nice if we both had the weekend off together at least.
Post # 4
At the moment we both work shift (and LONG shifts at that) so we are lucky if we have one day off a week together, it was pretty horrible at first but like everything you get used to it – when we do have a day off together it’s great and we have a weeks holiday coming up which we are both REALLY looking forward to.
Would I do it if I had the choice? Not a chance.
Will it be worth it in the long run? Yes.
Post # 5
I work 12 hour night shifts (7p-7a) and every third weekend. I am lucky that I only work part time. It is tough on the days I work because we try to get dinner and homework done before I have to leave so it leaves little time to chat or anything. And on the weekend I hardly sleep because I don’t want to miss out on everything.
It is tough,but the extra money for me working nights and paying less in daycare is worth it to us. I think we appreciate the nights I am home more.
ETA: During the week we have a meeting spot in the morning where I get hte kids. We load the kids into my car and we take about 10 minutes to catch up on how the night/morning went. It is nice just to have a few minutes to touch base with each other.
Post # 6
For sure we do… and his days/hours changes every 3 months and I work every weekend — it’s tough but we make the most of the time we have together. For example when we finally had a full day off together a couple weeks ago and it was perfect weather we:
Went to my favorite coffee shop and had lunch there
Walked that town area, shopped
Sat at the river on a bench, watched wildlife.
Went to a fun center and played mini golf, go carted, bumper boated, and played something fun called water wars
Then went home for a couple hours and went to a late night movie 🙂
Amazing date day… amazing.
Post # 7
I used to work opposite hours than DH. He would work 6am-2pm (ish…he was salary so the hours were different some days), Monday through Friday. I worked 12-9pm Tuesday through Saturday. It was really hard because Sunday was the only day that we had off together and because he had to get up so early for work he was basically getting ready to go to bed when I got home. It was difficult but it’s definitely worth it in the long run. Now I have a much better job with much better hours but we couldn’t have made it to this point if we hadn’t made that sacrifice at the time.
Post # 8
Currently I go to school from 8am to 1pm. I then come home to do homework and leave for work around 4 or 5pm. He leaves for work around 4am and is ome around 4 each day. This week I’ve seen him for a total of… 45 min possibly. It has been extremely stressful. He’s asleep every night ny the time I get home so I may see him for up to 30 whole minutes in a day. I left yesterday sobbing because I missed him so much. On the other hand the money is really great and has allowed us to save quite a bitand that is a huge relief for us. I think you have to really consider the amount of time you will be decreasing to and schedule at least 1 whole day a week you could see one another. I am fortunate to not work sundays and it is the only thing keeping me sane.
Post # 9
Aww..I hope your DH gets the promotion!!
I work Mon-Fri, 8am-5pm and FH works Mon-Fri 9pm-5:30am. It was really hard in the beginning, but now we’re pretty much used to it. Sleeping alone 5 days out of the week is the worst part 🙁 But I think we’re used to it. Our weekends are sacred times now, we use that time to hang out or to have date nights. At this point, we’re just grateful to have jobs in this economy!
It can work out if both of you manage your time wisely and put each other first during free time. We’re not TTC for another 5 or 6 years so I don’t have any advice for you on that. But I’m glad that you waited to get your diabetes under control 🙂
Post # 10
Thanks so much ladies!
Keep praying/sending positive thoughts our way & hope he gets it! So we can start TTC again early next year!
Post # 11
We did have opposite scedules & we hardly ever saw each other. I wimped out and quit my part time job (I didn’t like my job, and money isn’t a pressing issue at the moment). I’m hoping to find something where we both work similar hours & that I actually don’t loathe doing. 🙂
I hope your DH gets his raise soon, so you can move forward with your plans 🙂
Post # 12
@Enchanted1: Aw, well good for you for. 🙂 I hope you find something you love doing soon! 🙂 & Thank you so much!
Post # 13
DH and I have been living together for 2 years and have had different schedules the whole time. He used to work in a restaurant so I rarely saw him. Now he works mon-fri but still a different shift. Once the baby gets here then I will go back to work part time so I will actually see him for a few hours a day. Our running joke is always that he will see me that night since he gets home long after I am asleep every night.
Post # 14
Lordy we do and have pretty much our entire relationship. I work 7p-7a one week is Wed and Thurs and the next Mon, Fri, Sat, Sun. He works 4 am-about 2 and is off Wed and Thursday. I dont know how we do it but it works for us.
Post # 15
@Sweet.Sugar.Rose: My FI is on East Coast and I’m on West Coast time so it’s an adjustment. He works long hours so even by the time I get off work, he might still be working. It’s difficult and we’re still adjusting. At least he doesn’t work weekends…