Any Bees who have been TTC for more than 1 year?

posted 2 weeks ago in TTC
Post # 16
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182 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Your age/partner’s age: 28/28

TTC start date/# of cycles TTC: 16

Baby #: 1

Any miscarriages/losses/rainbow babies at the end? No

Do you or your partner have any fertility-affecting medical conditions?  Doctors believe I have endometriosis but haven’t had surgery to confirm also just irregular cycles and low progesterone.  Hubby has low count, motility and morphology.

Which fertility treatments have you tried so far? IUI/IVF? 3 unsuccessful IUIs… we have a consult scheduled for the 19th with a new clinic for IVF

What advice do you have for others who have been TTC for a long time? Take it one day at a time. Find others going through the same thing, it’s amazing how much easier it is to talk to someone who truly gets it.

 

 

Post # 17
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1362 posts
Bumble bee

Jewelieee :  Apparently unless a very good tech is searching for the heart shaped, they would never pick it up on a ultra sound. The test I got is what has them looking at the uterues. It was the first question I asked when I was told about this. At least it was discoverd now.

Post # 18
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198 posts
Blushing bee

Jewelieee :  Thanks! I know it’s possible it’s just very slim. I’m hoping to be pleasantly surprised! I hope we all can stick around this thread so I can see all of us get our BFPs!

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

You are definitely not alone!

 

Your age/partner’s age: 28/34

TTC start date/# of cycles TTC: DH and I never really used any solid method of birth control since we started dating. We started actively trying in January 2014.

Baby #: 1

Any miscarriages/losses/rainbow babies at the end? One chemical pregnancy

Do you or your partner have any fertility-affecting medical conditions? DH has severe MFI (count was so low that they couldn’t really test anything else), and all tests were clear for myself.

Which fertility treatments have you tried so far? IUI/IVF? 5 failed IUI cycles using donor sperm, 3 natural IUIs and 2 using 50mg Clomid+Ovidrel

What advice do you have for others who have been TTC for a long time? Honestly, I don’t have much good advice. It has been a long road for DH and I and it has put a huge strain on our marriage and finances. It never seems to get easier and time does not seem to heal like people say it does. We do however try to treat ourselves as much as we can. We have started to *slowly* come to the realization that if we never conceive, life still has to go on. Right now, we cope with this by buying things that make us happy. It’s a terrible coping method, but it’s like grasping for straws.

 

Post # 20
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639 posts
Busy bee

Your age/partner’s age: 25/25

TTC start date/# of cycles TTC: May/June 2016 

Baby #: 1

Any miscarriages/losses/rainbow babies at the end? No, thankfully. I would love to know that I have the ability to even get pregnant, but I don’t ever want to have to experience the multiple losses that some ladies have. Bless them. 

Do you or your partner have any fertility-affecting medical conditions?  I have PCOS and really low progesterone, DH has some small morphology and motility issues but they aren’t addressing his problem because they say that his isn’t really be that big of a deal.

Which fertility treatments have you tried so far? IUI/IVF? I started metformin 1500 mg every day before ttc and progesterone 200 mg during the tww a while back. Now we are on our 3rd round of clomid, currently taking 100mg days 5-9 and we have had one unsuccessful IUI. I had low progesterone numbers and cervical cryosurgery last month, so they couldnt do another one this month. We do a 21 day draw on the 25th and hopefully it comes back high enough where they think it is beneficial to do a second IUI with injections in Sept.

What advice do you have for others who have been TTC for a long time?                                                                Just have faith that it will happen. That is the only thing that gets me through some days. I just always try to thank God for giving me what he has. My husband and I have always had a really good relationship, but this has brought us closer than I even thought possible, so I like to use this time when it’s just us to just be happy with each other. Even if that is the only thing that we are supposed to get out of this journey, it was worth it. I always try to remind myself how this struggle has given my baby a story before they are ever even born. So many people decide to get pregnant and within a few months with pretty much zero effort, they are. We have spent so much time praying and pleading for this baby and we have already went through so much to have him/her. I have shed hundreds of tears, I have put my body through a lot, we have spent thousands of dollars on Dr visits, medicines, tests, blood work, etc, and that is just to have the slightest chance that I will meet them one day. They will never question whether they were wanted.lol  Make sure to be nice to yourself, this stuff is hard.

Praying for all those future baby mamas who are struggling! 

Post # 21
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507 posts
Busy bee

Jewelieee :  I don’t know if this will help- hearing of people on the “other side” didn’t make me feel better while I was going through it…

Your age/partner’s age: 32/43

TTC start date/# of cycles TTC: 22 months (can’t go by cycles)

Baby #: 1 (31 weeks pregnant)

Any miscarriages/losses/rainbow babies at the end? 
I had a chemical pregnancy my first IUI

Do you or your partner have any fertility-affecting medical conditions? Yes but it wasn’t clear until the second round of IVF, we were unexplained until then. My cycles were crazy long on their own (hit 60+ days)

Which fertility treatments have you tried so far? IUI/IVF? 
We did 3 IUIs and 2 full rounds of IVF with a resection of a uterine septum in between the 2 IVF cycles

What advice do you have for others who have been TTC for a long time?

Cry, scream, take care of yourself, keep making plans and dreaming because that’s the only way to get through. Put one foot in front of the other and make progress towards whatever goal you make (IUI, IVF…) you need to be at peace with whatever decisions you need to make (when to stop trying, when to seek help or further help…). And when you get help, love your RE and the staff at the clinic. You need to trust them and believe what they say because it will only stress you out more if you second guess those who are trying to help.

Post # 22
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301 posts
Helper bee

Your age/partner’s age: 28

TTC start date/# of cycles TTC: 20+ (I’ve honestly lost count.)

Baby #: 1

Any miscarriages/losses/rainbow babies at the end? Nope. Never had a BFP ever. 

Do you or your partner have any fertility-affecting medical conditions? DH has low morphology but that’s the only issue, as far as we know. I have really painful ovulation so it’s hard for me to believe I’m completely normal. Hoping a specialist will have better insight than my doctor. 

Which fertility treatments have you tried so far? IUI/IVF? Nothing. Waiting on our appt with a specialist. 

What advice do you have for others who have been TTC for a long time? Hang in there..  I know. Not helpful. It’s hard and it sucks. 

Sorry I’m in my phone and couldn’t figure out how to unbold my answers. 

Post # 23
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Jewelieee :  Yea it’s pretty annotyng when people say to just relax. Kind of hard to do so if your going through medicated cycles or dealing with medical issues! And you’re right that it’s just not that simple for some people!

 

I’m assuming I’m out this cycle, POAS today and got a BFN, but have just had lots of cramping and some bleeding here and there (my flow is usually quite heavy).

I really do wonder what’s going on inside when TTC and nothing happens….like does the egg go the other way, does it actually get fertilized then not implant, etc? It’s just feels weird that for some people it’s so straight forward and it can somehow take 1+ years for others!

Post # 24
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

moonandnight88 :  I completely agree!  I’ve had at least one person tell me during each of our IUIs to relax and not stress and all it really does is upset me. Definitely hard to do so when you’re constantly wondering how the medications working/when your next appointment will be/dealing with side effects from the medication and not to mention the amount of money you’re spending not knowing if it will work or not. 

And I completely understand wondering what’s going on during an unsuccessful cycle. Our last IUI I wish I had known if the egg fertilized and never implanted or if nothing happened at all especially because for the first time ever my progesterone levels were well above normal so we were really hopeful that it was going to be successful. 

 

Im out this cycle as well.  AF showed today which means this past cycle was only 25 days which is the shortest it’s ever been but I think everything gets thrown off when I’ve been on medication the previous cycle. I’m just trying to look forward to next Saturday when we have our first consult at a new clinic and can move on to IVF.

Post # 25
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Emmanem :  Good luck with the IVF cycle! I know it’s tough and can be pretty involved, hope it goes as smoothly as possible for you.

 

I just contacted my doc about doing IUI next cycle if this cycle does not work. I must say I’m worried about clomid and the side effects, and if it will mess things up even more. I already ovulate and I’m concerned I will have an over response to it.

Also DH checked the results of his second SA and while all his parameters went up his morphology says it’s 0! Before it was low but certainly not zero, is it possible to drop like that over a few months? Now I’m really worried.

Post # 26
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842 posts
Busy bee

 

You are definitely not alone!! What I’m considering doing this month is going to a peer-led group in my town.  Someone on a previous board suggested looking into RESOLVE.. it’s an infertility group, and if you go to their site, there is a place to find support groups near you 🙂  Maybe that will help!! Finding others in your area, versus just people you talk to online that don’t have a face! 

 

 

Your age/partner’s age:  31/29 

TTC start date/# of cycles TTC:  July 2016/This month is 14 cycles, but we aren’t trying this month due to our game plan from here out. 

Baby #:  1

Any miscarriages/losses/rainbow babies at the end?  
No BFP’s at all yet 🙁 

Do you or your partner have any fertility-affecting medical conditions? We just saw an RE in July after 12 cycles and had a hysterosonogram that revealed my uterus is FULL of polyps.. pretty much no normal endometrial tissue for a baby to implant to if it wanted to! So praying that this is our only issue because everything else has checked out fine! 

Which fertility treatments have you tried so far? IUI/IVF?  
No treatments so far, the plan is to meet with the actual Physician next week ( so far we have only been seeing the NP) and he will discuss our plan.. but according to the NP, I will have to have a D&C to scrape out all of the abnormal tissue and polyps and I’m hoping we can TTC again the cycle after my D&C!

What advice do you have for others who have been TTC for a long time?  Don’t beat yourself up.  I got into a funk for the last few months before RE appts where I was constantly thinking it’s my fault (DH’s sperm analysis had already checked out) and feeling broken and guilty for not being able to give my DH a baby so far. But alot of these issues are things we don’t know about or can’t control ourselves.  

Take care of yourself and your marriage.  THis issue can wreak havoc on your emotions and your relationship if you let it.  You and your DH are going to be the rock for your future child and he/she deserves happy parents 🙂 

Good luck and I am sending everyone on this board lots of baby dust and love!! 

Post # 27
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842 posts
Busy bee

moonandnight88 :  I already ovulate and my doctor prescribed me Clomid.  my regular ob/gyn and my RE  said that they like 21 day progesterone levels to be over 20 to mean “good ovulation”.  Mine were 16 natural, 17 on 50mg clomid and then went up to 69 last month on 100mg clomid. I also dropped 2 eggs last month on 100mg so once I get this D&C I’m probably going to continue my Clomid and  probalby will have a good chance of twins! EEk! 

I’m not going to lie, the side effects sucked for me.  I get every side effect any medication can give.. my body hates medicine lol. I got really bad headaches and HORRIBLE hot flashes on both 50 and 100mg of Clomid.  I will be purchasing a small desk fan for myself for at work next month that I’m on it lol. But it’s so worth the possible end result!!! 

Good luck! 

Post # 28
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842 posts
Busy bee

Jewelieee :  I HATE when someone says “don’t stress”.  My mom told me one day a few months ago that “i was talking with my coworkers and they said your issue is stress, you worry too much”

I don’t even know her coworkers!! how in the hell can they tell me that my issue is stress?!

Ugh, it made me so mad… I also got pissed that she was even talking about my issues with strangers.  When I found out about my polyps I texted her and told her to tell her coworkers I have an actual issue causing infertility and for them to go screw themselves. hahaha. I was a little bitter. 

Post # 29
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

zoey0317 :  Thanks for the info! That’s interesting about the 21 day labs because mine came back at 7.9 which my doc said was fine. It seems like there’s a lot of difference in terms of the numbers they like for progesterone. There was a thread I came across here where everyone’s doc was looking for a different number…so confusing! I thought of getting progesterone cream for a bit then didn’t. 

 

Ugh I’m certain I’ll be like that with clomid as well, I already have strong ovulation symptoms and my doc talked about starting with 100mg! I started taking tribulus which is a supplement thats supposed to work similarly to clomid, but with DH’s results it might not do much!

 

Post # 30
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842 posts
Busy bee

moonandnight88 :  Most of what I’ve seen (on these boards or other baby site boards), a 7.9 would be low and require progesterone supplements to sustain.  I am under the impression with all I’ve seen that 10 and up is decent for natural ovulation and 15 and up is decent for medicated ovulation.. But my RE would have put me on progesterone suppositories if my progesterone was under 20!  So I have no clue.. 7.9 is quite low, though, from all the boards I’ve read I think most people that low are supplemented. So hopefully the 100mg boosts that number and you dont have to take progesterone! And don’t worry about the side effects. They weren’t a constant thing for me. I would have it some days and others  I wouldn’t.. but again.. so worth the possible result!! Especially if it means not taking supplements as well!

I don’t know a whole lot about SA results unfortunately. I mean, I don’t know how they would fix your DH’s morphology, but I’ve heard of men taking clomid as well!  I think sperm issues are alot easier to fix than women’s issues most of the time.  So don’t worry!!! Good luck!!

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