Post # 1
Hi bees! I’m a senior at my university and I will be applying to grad school for counseling in a few months. I am also soon to be engaged 🙂 Here’s the tentitave plan: graduate next May, get married late July, and start grad school late August. I will surely be excited and actively planning during the school year, but I can’t let the planning completely take over my life.
Does anyone have any advice or tips for a bee planning while in school? What was your experience like? Did you designate a certain amount of hours per week to planning?
Oh I also want to do a lot of DIY
Post # 3
I’m also graduating next May and getting married a week later. I find that planning/booking vendors on breaks is helpful as it is much easier to meet with them on normal business hours and give the hunt and comparison your full attention.
To tackle the wedding planning, I first prioritized my vendors I would need to book to get them out of the way. You can’t DIY a venue out of thin air for example. So for me, that meant I worked very hard to find a venue, catering and photography. With those out of the way, I spend an hour or so researching ideas for the wedding a day, mostly over lunch. I’m going to work on decorations throughout the whole school year so I can do them when I have time and don’t have to set aside a whole weekend for example.
I’m finding that I keep track of all my ideas in a binder so that when I pick wedding planning back up between work/school, I remember where I left off. I also review plans with my FI often to make sure we are still on the same page.
Post # 4
I am currently in my second year of graduate school and planning a wedding. I will graduate in May and getting married in August. I have placed priority in booking vendors far in advance. I also plan on doing a lot of DIY. I forgot to mention I am planning a wedding from a state away. I also plan on designating certain days and times for projects so that I don’t drive myself and my fiance crazy over planning.
I agree with @ummsgna I have put together a binder with a timeline and pictures of projects.
Happy planning and good luck!
Post # 5
@lovelee1: I am in a Phd program. We booked the big stuff at the 1 year mark (venue, caterer, photographer, dress, hotel block) and then I didn’t really do anything wedding-related over the fall semester. But I think with anyone, school or no school, planning respsonsibilities come in waves. There will be times were there really isn’t anything to do. I finalized the guest list, sent save the dates, and picked out invitations over winter break. Things got a bit hectic toward the end of the spring semester immediately before the wedding with vendor meetings and finalizing details, but in total during that more “intense” time of planning, I probably spent no more than an hour or two at night working on wedding stuff. I didn’t do any DIY stuff beyond writing guest names on escort cards the day before the wedding, it’s just not my thing and I really didn’t have the time with school. I was able to take 2 weeks off from my research for the wedding + honeymoon which was nice.
Post # 6
I got married this past March, and I graduated in May. It was definitely really hard juggling both (plus I had a full-time job), but it’s doable. You have to use good time management and remember to focus on your degree most of time, and wedding less. It’s hard to do, but you have to establish real priorities – and your schooling should definitely be a top priority.
Post # 7
I got engaged the summer before my 5th and final year of a PhD and our wedding is 3 months after starting my post-doc! It was a little hectic, but I did a lot of planning early and just made sure to leave myself plenty of time for everything. It’s worked out so far, we’re 2 months out now!
Post # 8
Yes, and it was a life saver (but really). I was in an accelerated graduate program (Master’s in 14 months) for 1st-year teachers. I was crazy busy with my first year teaching and took 6 classes on top of that in the Fall and 5 in the Spring. My FI proposed in Nov. 2012 and we’re getting married Dec. 31, 2013. I found it to be an awesome way to give myself some perspective. There were times I just wanted to say “screw it” but then I could go and look at venues or dresses and take my mind off of my work and school. I would say the most important thing is to make sure you’re organized. Wedding planning should be fun (though there is stress/drama at times), but you have to make sure you aren’t putting it ahead of the other important things in your life. I keep a word doc of the plans and have a special folder in my email for wedding related stuff. Everything is easy to find and then I could/can go back to it when I needed to do certain things. Good luck and enjoy!
Post # 9
@RunnerBride13: Congrats to you too! PhD sounds awesome and terrifying at the same time. I’m jealous you’re only two months out (5 months, so I’m getting there)!
Post # 10
I’m not even close to graduating haha…I’ll be a junior this fall and I plan to go on to grad school for social work! We basically squeezed the entire planning into this summer because I don’t have time for much else when I’m both in school and working. Thankfully FI has been very supportive of me and he helps where he can!
Post # 11
@lovelee1: I’m going into my second year of grad school while trying to plan an intimate DIY wedding under $6,000.
My best advice is to be crazy organized, if there’s a spreadsheet for it then download it and fill that sucker out (I’ve got one for RSVPs, Budgets etc). Start your DIY as early as possible because chances are you’ll get busy and have to put it aside for weeks at a time due to school. I don’t know that I’ve set aside time dedicated to just wedding planning but it’s always in the back of my mind but that’s how I am with school as well (things like essays etc.)
The most time I set aside for wedding business was when I set aside a whole day to do all my tastings (cake, reception etc), hunt for decorations, and see my venue. Unfortunately I had food poisoning so I didn’t enjoy and of it but due to school I didn’t have time to reschedule so it is what it is.
Post # 12
I graduated with my first masters in May. I was engaged in June. I’m starting my second masters in August. I’m getting married in January, one week after classes start. So luckily the planning has worked out well. I’ve been able to get a huge majority of the legwork done now during the summer, and I’ll have the winter break to prepare for the “last minute” details.
Post # 13
@lovelee1: I got engaged last March, started grad school in August, Had our wedding in May, and graduated this July (comprehensive program)…. My advice would be to do as much as you can before school starts! We had almost all of our vendors/deposits taken care of within those 5 months before I started school and tackled some DIY projects. It will be hectic but worth it!
Post # 14
I am recently engaged, and starting my DVM program in a month. Originally FI and I thought we could get married next summer in 2014, but I’ve been having some trouble finding venues with available dates (our schedules aren’t too flexible especially with school).
I am shopping around for venues now and looking at them in person before school starts, so at least I can have an idea of what they look like and make a decision. I feel like we might have to push our date back to 2015 because vet school is too intense, and it is most important that I focus on the degree and not wedding planning.
I agree with being super organized and making efficient use out of your time off of school. I plan on using my last month of summer to shop for venues, winter breaks to start dress shopping, etc. I am using OneNote program to help stay organized. So far it has been SUPER helpful! Everytime you think of an idea write it down.
Post # 15
@lovelee1: I got engaged aout a month before starting my graduate program. We thought about waiting until the three year program was over, but that didn’t last long. The wedding is in 5 weeks! It’s been a bit crazy at times to plan a wedding while navigating my first year of school, but thankfully my mom has been awesome, and I think the second year will be more intense than the first, so I’d rather have the wedding before it ramps up!
As far as tips go, just set aside time for certain things. Remember to take time for you- self care will be key! Do things that aren’t wedding or school related sometimes. Find a spreadsheet to organize your thoughts in, and try and get anyone involved to help you! In the end, just try and have fun with it. Remember that the end goal will be getting to spend the rest of your life with the one you love!
What kind of counseling are you thinking of? I’m in school counseling!
Post # 16
@ummsgna: thanks for the tips 🙂 I will begin working in my planning binder soon. I will try to add tabs and sections to keep it nice and organized. I will definitely take advantage of breaks as well. I can’t imagine how busy next summer will be right before the wedding.
@adalm03: and @remijp: great idea to book the vendors in advance. We’re under a year out so I suppose I should get going on that soon…
@abbie017: thank you for saying that it is doable. I was wondering if it would be for me. I know it will be difficult and stressful, but I’m glad that so many bees have made it happen. I worry at times and have even considered giving myself more time. Did you ever consider that?
@RunnerBride13: Congratulations on both the PhD and your upcoming wedding! How exciting!
@KatiePi: I imagine I would be using the wedding plans as an escape from the craziness that is school and work! I just can’t let myself get TOO into the planning lol.