(Closed) Any Bees who PREFER smaller diamonds?

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
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12826 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m with you.  I told FI I wanted a simple and tasteful ring, not a huge stone, and just a very classic setting.  I don’t wear a lot of jewelry and I don’t wear any bling, ever (my biggest piece of “statement” jewelry is pearls…).  For me, one of those huge rings would have shown me that my FI didn’t know me at all, or know my tastes. 

That being said, there are some absolutely gorgeous and enormous rocks on this site!  I think if it fits the girl, it’s a great thing.  For me, small was what I wanted; for others, the bigger the better.  It’s all a matter of taste! 

For the record, I despise the people who say “People who say they like small rings are just jealous.”  I’m not jealous, I just don’t like big flashy jewelry for myself!

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I love small, simple diamonds. I also told my FI not to spend too much and that I didn’t need a big rock. We were in the process of buying a house and I said I’d rather spend the money on the house. I’ve always liked simple rings so the one he gave me is perfect.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I prefer my smaller side diamonds on either side of my larger center stone, haha!  Sorry.  Seriously, I hear what you’re saying, and not everyone wants to wear a blingy ring.  And you should love your ring because it is something you wear every day.  Having one of the smaller stones reset into a ring you love more sounds like a great idea if it would make you happy.  For whatever reasons you have to change it, it’s not wrong at all to recreate it into something you will enjoy and be at peace with every time you look at it. 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

For me it really depends. If we’re talking solitaires, my favourite size would be about 0.66-1.5ct; for me, anything smaller looks too small and gets lost, but anything bigger looks too big and flashy.

If we’re talking a cluster , I think anything above .75 starts to look a little too blingy (mine is a .66ct cluster and is fairly big); and if we’re talking a halo, I think anything bigger than a .75 centre stone is a little too big for my personal tastes.

This is not down to jealousy, and if I was loaded, I’d quite like to buy a massive ring just for fun, as a cocktail ring. But as an everyday ring, bigger rings are too much for me, and many of the larger rings I’ve seen just don’t look very classy IMO. Sometimes, less is more.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

I love small diamonds, not really tiny, but not big either. I have small fingers, and anything over 1ct would have looked huge on me, I love the diamond I have, perfect size for me, and my dream ring 🙂

Post # 9
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12826 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@fembride045:  I’m glad I’m not the only one! 

Post # 10
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9825 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I have size 7 fingers, so anything less than a half carat tends to get lost on me. But I LOVE smaller diamonds! I owned a quarter carat old miner cut diamond and it was a little fireball full of sparkle and fire.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I think that it depends on the girl. I don’t wear jewelry, EVER. And even then it is usually understated, like brushed metal or something like that, no real sparkle. That being said, I like the look of a larger center stone (like 1-1.5 carat), so that’s what we are going with. BUT, I think it depends on what looks good on the girl, and her personality, etc. I have seen women rock 3 carat blinged out rings, and also considered a .25 carat soitaire to be just as beautiful.

 

I think that if your FI is set on you not changing your e-ring, maybe change it to a RHR for special occasions, and just wear your wedding band. If you want ring with a stone in it for your left, maybe look into a small, simple diamond as an anniversary/christmas/birthday gift?

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I LOVE my ring!  the main diamond is a quarter carat, not big at all.  I prefer it small. I’m definitely not into the “status” symbol behind a bigger ring. If anything, I think the ring I have is much better quality than that of girlfriend’s of mine with bigger diamonds.  Plus, it means more to me because my FH picked it out himself (I was completely surprised).  I couldnt be happier

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

My FI got me a .5 carat and I think it is the perfect size. Its not too big that it is a bother to me but still a nicer size. He was really proud that the one he picked out is very clear and not discolored because he believed its better to have a nicer looking smaller diamond than a bigger cloudy one. It does bother me that other people I know have a big center diamond and diamonds all down the band and have a halo and assume that my FI doesn’t love me as much or he didn’t have the money even though I wanted a solitaire. He could have affored a bigger one but I wouldn’t have been comfortable with how big it would have been. I’m not jealous of theirs, I’m just hurt that my ring is judged so much.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

On the flip side, it is possible that a girl would want a bigger diamond/stone for reasons other than just turning their ring into a status symbol. My fingers have always been a 7-8 and I wear a 3/8ct. diamond on my pinky! It would not look right, imo, on my ring finger due to my ring size.

For your situation, it sounds like your FI would like you to keep the ring he chose for you as-is, which is understandable on his part. I agree with him about wearing a band to work if the ring makes you uncomfortable. You can also get a small diamond solitaire (1/10 – 1/4 ct) for less than what it would cost for you to get your original ering tweaked and a brand new ring made from one of the side diamonds by a jeweler. That way, you could only wear your larger ring on occasions where you feel good wearing it and still have a small diamond for general wear.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I do! My center stone is .36ct, and while sometimes I think it’s a little small, I tried on bigger ones and didn’t like them. It looks perfect on my hand. My dream anniversary ring is a half ct! I just don’t like flashy jewelry. I like everything to be understated and simple. Not to mention, I smack this one on everything as it is. Haha.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

My short answer…nope. 🙂

Would love to see a pic of your ring. Could you post one?

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